How do I get rid of hate in my heart?

Question

3 months after a guy used abused and cheated on me i still have him on my mind. i dated others but its just not the same....and i try to keep busy..i even went on vacation.
Please no bible verses.

Answer 1

That's what you need Bible verses. Nothing else will help.

Answer 2

The trick is to realize that 'men' is not the reason for living; that they play only a tiny part in women's lives.

Even if you try to keep busy or go on vacation, the fact remains that you did these things to distract yourself. You didn't solve the problem, you only covered it up. That means if another guy comes along, you would still be as vunerable and naive as you were with the first guy. There is a need for your emotional growth and maturity.

Realize that there are other things better in life, and men are only a small 'good-thing' added to it. Male-Female romance is like the gravy in a tenderloin steak; without it, it's still good eating. But if you eat gravy alone... somethings wrong with you.

Now that you know what the gravy is, you'd need to find out what the steak is... bible verses would help.

Answer 3

When you do forgive him it is only for your own sake , and it's like a huge weight taken off your Heart ! I know because I did this with the Father of my children . He abused me too . One day I said that's it I can't carry this anymore . I forgive him . This man promised to leave me in a pool of blood if he ever ran into me again , and I forgave him ! He had no idea what damage
he had done or that I still thought about so my point is do it for you !
Pray for him in the mean time {sounds crazy } but it will soften your heart enough to forgive . Just don't go back for more !

Answer 4

Okay, this suggestion is unorthodox, but it helped me out when my ex ripped my heart out, pissed on it and threw it into the middle of rush hour traffic : Take a form of martial arts that suits you.I took taekwondo, because I have allot of lower body strength, and put so much energy into my training, all my hate, all my anger, every negative feeling, that by the end of 5 months, I was able to break a board with my foot that was held at the height of 6 feet.( I'm 5'5")The sense of self control that I have now was worth all the effort, and though I still hate him on a certain level, I am no longer consumed by hate.

Answer 5

1.forgive yourself
2.focus on a few nice things you can do for yourself
3.men are pigs mostly,you weren't the first he made feel used and i doubt you will be the last so forget it and move on
4..if he cheated would you want him anyway he would just do it again .

remember for next time
"Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them."

hugs babe

Answer 6

you want revenge your were done wrong and you want him to pay, you feel like an idiot ,the best thing to do is to keep away dont try to play games with anyone , instead ride it out and pretend he doesnt exist what goes around will come around take it as a learning experiance before you know it ,it will all be history

Answer 7

Nothing can help you but time. It took me a year to get over mine. I am finally over him..but wouldnt you know it we started talking again. Anyway do alot of laughing it helps to heal pain over time and relieve stress. So the question is..what makes you laugh??

Answer 8

Prayer!

Answer 9

It sounds like you are doing the right thing. I know it still hurts bad, but only time can heal your wounds.

Answer 10

You either have hate in your heart or you are still pining away for him. Which is it? Can't answer until I know.