Some please leave me something I need to talk to someone perferably on the phone about relationship violence I dont know what to do i blame myself.
2006-10-11 14:02:19 · 18 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, my name is melissa and i lived with domestic violence for 8 years. He beat me every day and even almost killed me at one time, every time i took the kids to see him he beat me, please let me tell you it is not your fault!!!!!!!!!! Your abuser has the problem with themselves and they are just trying to make you feel like nothing because they are nothing. You are a wonderful person, i do not know you personally but God put you here and it is not up to your abuser to take you out. Do you want to live or die? Leave, there is nothing that you have that will ever replace you! You can always get more things but you can never get a new you. Just think to yourself is this worth the hurt and the pain every day? Soon you will be nothing and that is just what they want and it will just not stop it will get worse and your abuser will become more brave in how they treat you and possibly kill you!!!!!! There is something out there for you but you will never find it if you stay and just lay down and die!!!! Get up girl and fight for you because there is no one who can save you but yourself! Take it from someone who knows what it feels like every day of your life for 8 years. I was young and did not know any better but now i do and you know what, I love who i am at this point in my life and i have a wonderful husband who loves and respects me. But before i could have what i have now, i had to fight real hard for my own sanity, something that you are going to have to do. You can e-mail me at mcheatwood@verizon.net if you want to talk more about this. If i do not hear from you it is ok i do understand. Where do you live? I am in VA Beach and would love to talk to you some more. Good Luck and love yourself take care of you and look to the future because this is not the end, you can write your future.
2006-10-11 14:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is to tell yourself you are NOT to blame. Everyone owns their own behaviour and choses how they react to different situations. Violence is never the right choice. Next thing is to love yourself first and walk away from this relationship. I know this can be easier said than done as sometimes you truly do love the other person and live in hope that this day will be the one in which they change and things get better. It's safer to witness change from afar. There are many good counselling services for domestic violence listed in the community services section of the phone book who are fully trained to help you work through this. Just remember you are a beautiful person and don't deserve this so you have to make the right choices for you.
2006-10-11 14:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sue H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a teenager talk to your parents at once. If you are an adult you can call the police and ask how to get yourself out of the violence. There are safe homes you can stay in. If you cannot talk to parents for some reason, talk to any trusted adult, a teacher, your pastor. This kind of violence can be deadly so do not delay. Get help right now, today! And once you are out of it, do NOT ever go back to it no matter what.
2006-10-11 14:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do need help to get away from this. I have found a number on the Womens Aid homepage.
0808 2000247 It's a 24 hour line.
The site has an option so you can hide your visit.
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
Of course I don't know where you're from so this site may be useful to you
http://www.hotpeachpages.net/
Its the International Domestic Violence and Abuse Agencies List.
You can click where you're from anywhere in the world and it will bring up a list of various agencies who can help.
I really do hope this helps and that you can get away and be safe soon. Things will get better for you when you are free, it just takes some time.
I'll be thinking of you and I wish you a safe and happy future.xxx
2006-10-11 14:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by stiflersmom29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lola,
You didn't put your email or phone number on your question. If you experience violence in a situation remember YOU ARE A VICTIM AND NOT RESPONSIBLE!
Get away from your abuser by going to a shelter for battered women. They can help you with the legal authorities who handle these matters.
2006-10-11 14:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by expatmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence is a product of a cycle of events. If his is doing it to you, more than likely his dad did it to his Mom. If that is what he is learning from his family history, you do not need to add a chapter.
You can not beat an animal without risking going to jail so why put your self in that category??
If you need to talk respond and I will send you a contact...
2006-10-11 14:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by dee-dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a help line in every phone book, if not phone the police non emergency phone number and ask them to put you in touch with victim services. There is absolutely no reason for violence and to blame your self is to condone what happened and it will happen again and again if YOU do not stop it now
2006-10-11 14:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Got Flowers Today... By Paulette Kelly
I got flowers today.
It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today,
And it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage
and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers...today.
2006-10-14 15:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never blame yourself and go to a women's shelter or talk to a school counselor you are not at fault no one should be violent towards another person HUGS
2006-10-11 14:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋