ok my boyfriend wants me to get pregnent....he keeps saying..please baby please....i want to...but i dont....what should i do??
Help!
2006-10-11 13:56:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok my boyfriend wants me to get pregnent....he keeps saying..please baby please....i want to...but i dont....what should i do??...Me And Him Have Been together For Like Over 5 years....right now im 20...he really loves me and says he wants it to last forever
2006-10-11 14:17:18 · update #1
Do either of you have a good job to support a baby? Do either of you have a place to house a baby? Have you finished school? Is he planning on marrying you?
These things are VERY important. Babies are VERY expensive. Newborns go through 7 - 10 diapers in one day. If you plan on using formula, one can costs over $13 and lasts 2 weeks if you're lucky. Diapers can cost anywhere between $9 and $14 for a bag, and usually run about 20 to 40 diapers in a bag. Then there are the clothes. Babies go through clothes VERY fast. You will be buying clothes every few months. You will need special soap to wash the clothes in (i.e. Ivory) and also bath soap. This is why a good job is important. You'll be spending a good sixty to one hundred dollars a week just on the baby. Then you have the furniture. A crib can cost anywhere between $100 and $2000 unless you know someone who will give you one. Then you have a car seat, which runs about $75. Then you'll want toys and items to keep the baby busy. Then there's the garbage. Diapers take up alot of room and they STINK. Then there's the laundry. You'll be doing laundry every day, no joke. Then there's the nights that you won't sleep because the baby needs food/burped/changed/etc. Then the baby cries... and cries... do you have the patience for this??
Sound like alot yet? You haven't seen ANYTHING yet. Just wait till they get into school! You'll spend a fortune in school supplies.
2006-10-11 14:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by catwymn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how many men say that they want a baby and when its time to raise the child they are no place to be found. Do it the right way, wait until he talks of his undying love for you and that he wants to take care of you forever then and only then if you feel the same, get married and start a family. (How long have you been together?) give your relationship at least one year that is when you have had the time to see the good and bad side of a person. then you can make a educated decision
2006-10-11 14:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl unless YOU are ready for a kid, the answer should be no, or hell no. Its great that he wants to have kids with you, but the question then becomes, if you want one, if either or both of you can financially support the baby((or babies if you have a multiple birth)) and yourselves, if he'll stick around once he finds out how hard kids really are, so on and so forth, yadda yadda yadda.....
you have to be the one to carry the kid for nine months ((give or take)), the morning sickness will be yours, not his. The birthing is all you hunny cause you're the one pushing a watermelon out of you. Not him. You don't want a kid the answer is no. He doesn't like it he can take a long walk off a short pier while you find a guy who wants what you want. Its simple really. It sucks more when you love him I know, but he won't be happy till he has kids, and you won't be happy with them.
and 20 is too young to be havin' babies. Go have a life before you start making life!!! Sheesh!!!
2006-10-11 14:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Krustybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants that kinda commitment then marry you first. That would be the first step. That way you would know how serious he was about this situation. Some men think that is what they want then when the baby starts crying constantly and you both are only getting 2 hours of sleep a night he may run. Just please be careful with the decision you make. I have been in this situation.
2006-10-11 14:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is the most beautiful thing in the world. But if you are not ready then do not do it. My husband and I were together for 12 years before I got pregnant and it is really hard for us. She is only 6 weeks old and we are challenged everyday. You both should be in it together. If he loves you he will understand.
2006-10-11 14:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Holly F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do. If he really cares about you than he wont try to make you do anything. Just tell him no, and make sure you are in charge of the birth control (take the pill). Many guys do this to when they are insecure and want to trap a girl ( women do it too). And in the end they usually end up not sticking around..... Try to make him feel secure, but if he still persists, I would break it off..
2006-10-11 14:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question, you are probably not ready yet. It is hard work having a baby so think things through...Is this who you want to be your baby's daddy? Can you support a baby financially, emotionally, etc? Are you ready for a baby yet?
This decision could affect a little innocent baby so think it through long and hard. good luck
2006-10-11 14:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you arent ready! he will get over it! Make sure you take birth control because if he wants on bad enough he could poke holes in the condom or it will "accidentally slip off" or if you arent using protection and he is pulling out he may not do it any more! So get on some birth control.
2006-10-11 14:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% sure, then DO NOT DO IT. Having a baby is a HUGE responsibility and change to your life, too big not to be absolutely sure about!
2006-10-11 15:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by blueviolet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys arent even married why the hell would you guys want a kid. and plus you're the one giving birth.. if you dont want a baby dont have one tell it to his face.
2006-10-11 13:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋