going thru divorce and i miss my kids and i miss her i will always lover her she was my soul-mate she is my soul-mate and wil be my soul-mate, i prolly wont get a chance to se her everyday now but no one can"t stop me thinking of her, i still lover her soooooo deeply that i can not even type , i miss "MI LADY", its sooooooooo painfull , have i mention the kids yet "NO" i rather take some phusicall pain then go through this proceess please someone help me please i am missing them and i am crying , what happen to us, please help me !!!!!! it hurts so badddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd!!!!it is so so so so so so so so so s PAINFUL....OH GOD HELP ME SOMEONE PLEASE!! :(
2006-10-11 13:23:31 · 16 answers · asked by all-alone4eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start going to church. Maybe she left for a reason. Did you think of that? If you were failing her as a husband, and you know, deep in your heart if you were failing her or not, Don't try and deny that you have no idea what was wrong... you know. This is a time for self discovery and a time for change if you were not stepping up to the plate. Give your wife what she needs and stop being selfsih, find God and maybe you'll get back together. It happened to me. So it could happen for you.
2006-10-11 13:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by HootieFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can honestly say that i know how you feel. I have been through something similiar just recently. I understand the crying and being depressed and down. My advice to you is, cry it all out, find someone to talk to, preferable a family member who knows you the most and wont judge you and things will pick up from there. Just worry about being apart of your kids life and being there no matter what and letting them know that you will love them no matter what the situation. This is not going to be easy, you just have to weather the storm before you see any blue skies and sunshine. Everything will be fine in the end, i truly feel your pain, just hang in there and you will see for yourself. The true answer lies within your heart. I have been down and hurt and i am still down and hurt, but i have gotten over the pain and misery that i put myself through each day, i understand the emptiness that you could be feeling, so take it from me, find happiness within your self and things will look brighter.
2006-10-11 20:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by drew46759 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I know that things are really bad right now and maybe for a long time because I know what it feels like. But let me tell you after awhile you stop crying and you stop caring and you move on and that is when you find a part of you thought you never had. Then the fun starts You might meet a lot of people before you meet someone you want to try again with but you will but takes time. And you have to hurt before you can feel love or happiness again. good luck to you.
2006-10-11 20:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to friends, family, co-workers, counsler, or go to your pastor for guidance. Don't keep things bottled up that will only lead to trouble and more heartache. I'm sorry you are going through this but some day things will start to get better, they always do. Right now you are going through the natural motions of a divorce but the most important thing right now is to take care of yourself and maintain a good relationship with your kids. They are going through this as well so be strong for them and love them. Good Luck.
2006-10-11 20:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow man I can relate, I have been seperated from my wife for 3months now and I miss her and my kids so bad it hurts like hell. We seperated because a few years ago we moved in with her mom and it just did not work out so I left. Now my wife won't even talk to me, she is living with her mom in a new addition I built onto my mom in law house, and they hardly even answer the phone to let me talk to my own kids. I understand exactly how you feel. Everyone says it gets better with time but that sucks when time feels like it is standing still. One thing that I have tried to do (and it is hard) is remember the reasons why my wife and I cannot be together anymore, we simply seemed to not be able to live together, lots of time when I am feeling like you feel above I am romanticing the situation, I remember all the good times, the first kiss etc...and forget all about the bad. Hang in there and for both our sakes I hope it is true that time does heal, because I sure as hell am slowly and painfully awaiting my time to pass.
2006-10-11 20:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by jbrown280000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her. If just to ask. U have a right to see the kids also. Dont sit in front of the computer screen..get up and get out of there. get some fresh air. get a cold drink, see a friend, pray to God, just move on...one step at a time!
2006-10-11 20:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to be strong. If you want any shot you have to hold it together. Your wife is not going to want to deal with someone that can breakdown like this. I know its hard, but whatever you do, don't beg and plead in front of her. You don't want to guilt her back. No one is worth it, if they make you feel like this. I am assuming she sprung this on you out of nowhere. You need time to process the situation, talk to a therapist, and dont do anything to drastic. Be around family and friends, people care you just need to know that.
2006-10-11 20:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm Down...Take a Deep Breath, And handle it one day at a time. Divorce is a painful process. Been there, done that, with a child envolved as well. Keep your head and don't let yourself Spiral out of Control....Remember, One Day at a Time.
2006-10-11 20:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by Amber L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend JESUS IS THE WAY. He said that he will never leave you or forsake you. That is the good thing about his unconditional love. People always have a change of heart but God's love toward you will never fail. Tell him what your going through even though he already knows. But just let him love you through this hard time. I know he will because he did it for me and still is.
2006-10-11 21:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by roach killer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday the pain will lessen. There are thousands of us that have gone through divorce and have missed our children and soon to be ex spouses.
Hang in there, you will be just fine.
2006-10-11 20:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋