Are people with more friends nicer people, or are they better at knowing how to not alienate people?

Question

Don't cop out and say "both" I know it's both, but which is more true? and why? (for extra credit)

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Answer 1

I do not think it's niceness that causes a person to have more friends (thought it definitely helps!). To use myself as an example, I'm a very nice person but I don't have a huge group of close friends. I think it's more about how relatable a person is. I'm kind of unique and don't think the same way that most people seem to. Therefore, most people can't relate to my on most levels.

Answer 2

I have quite a few friends and I don't find myself to be nicer than anyone else. In fact, I think that I'm pretty mean because unlike most people I am friends with I'm very blunt and honest and I don't care what anyone says about it. I think the reason I have so many friends is because (a) people like people who are honest, (b) I am very open-minded, (c) I am not very judgmental and therefore attract many different people, and (d) I am what a lot of people wish they could be so by hanging out with me or being friends with me they hope that a part of me will rub off on them. I know a lot of that sounds very self-centered and what not but that's how I honestly feel. I have "personality" because I know how to sympathize with people but not baby them, I show that I care by not caring too much, I am reality knocking on most people's doors.

Answer 3

As someone who has never had or felt the need to have alot of friends, I guess you can take my answer with a grain of salt. But from what I observe, I find that people who have alot of friends usually have a chameleonic quality to them. They seem to be better at molding their persona to fit different people and are willing to sacrifice their own interest for others than more solitary types. Also, people with alot of friends are usually physically attractive, especially if they occupy a kind of leadership position in the group.

Answer 4

making friends is like playing piano, some folks have a natural talent for it but we all need practice at it to get better.

Being nice requires a lot of tact at times which can be considered to being better at not alienating people so I would tend to say people with more friends are nicer people.

Answer 5

there are those that people love to be around, and those that people cant stand to be around

i had heard that the people that others love to be around are just that way because they have a constant stream of new experiences, and are exposed to new information with every interaction.
on the other hand, those that others cannot stand to be around do not get that interaction on a constant basis.
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so- it stands to reason that people with more friends are in a way nicer since every new positive experience with others contantly feeds the ego and instills a sense of confidence, and trust which in turn naturally lowers ones tendency to alienate others.

Answer 6

I think neither. They can be mean and act nice so as to not alienate people-and make lots of friends and acquaintances, it's not the quantity but the quality that counts.

Answer 7

they are nicer people,

or richer