And he said he was no longer talking with the girl he cheated with cell phone bill came yesterday and he has called her two times i'm hurt because he has been telling me that's over with and i believed him i'm hurt because i started having feelings again and i have really been trying to get my marriage back on track please give me some advice please? I dont want a marriage were we just live together i want to be loved.
2006-10-11 13:14:06 · 16 answers · asked by lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once burned it is almost impossible to get the fire back. It has been more than once with the same woman so I believe that their relations will not cease. If you can share, then do it, but I know that I could not share. Not even once.
It means that he doesnt love you. I would never cheat on my wife. Even if I loved her no more-she is my wife. This is why we have divorce. Next man you love, ensure that it is real and dont rush in. If you see a "sign" of future problems, then get out while you have invested little time. Live and learn.
2006-10-11 13:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by James S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lisa
I have been in your shoes for the past 2 years! If he doesn't give her up the first time... he isn't going to! Sorry , it hurts but it will hurt more the more you put into this marriage!
It has been 4 months since I asked my husband to leave when I found out again that he was contacting her! It hurts like hell and I miss him everyday but at least I don't have to worry about someone cheating on me everyday. I am actually going on a date tomorrow and it is exciting! Help me to get that loser off my mind for a couple hours at least!
2006-10-11 20:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AND YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED.Right now I'm sure you are stuck in a place where you don't want your marriage to be over but boo it is if your husband is seeking outside pleasures.Don't give up hope yet. Step your game up.Are you handling your business as his wife?Does he discuss with you things that you are not doing?or what he needs from you.PRAY about it. Talk to your husband and see if you can figure out the problem and take it from there if it doesn't get better then you do what you need to to make your self happy. A man can't do that for you. He can only add to your happiness.
2006-10-12 14:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people do not change. I know how important it can be to want to save a marriage but sometimes you have to let go. It will save your sanity in the long run. You will never be able to trust him, always wondering whose on the phone, where is he going, is he telling the truth.....You will find love, it's just not with this person. Good Luck
2006-10-11 20:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by Hwy2?? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel in a non threatening way. try not to cry,try to stick to the matter athand and be honest and straight forward. dont address other issues,i know thats hard,just the facts please,then stop. ask him to tell you exactly how he feels. now, set the rules,stick with them,state that him must also. decide if you both are willing to or need help. if you cant trust him after a period of time divorce ,dont wait too long. only he can change his behavior,dont even try to change him. simply lay out the cost if he does become a repectable husband,period.
2006-10-11 20:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by senseofhonor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then let him go and find true love. If he truly loves you, he won't want to be with other women. He has already cheated n you which means that he may do it again, who can live a life with someone whom you can't trust? Think about that!
2006-10-11 20:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really sounds like you need to move on...
most cell phone company's have it were you can also have an online account and you can see everything from online who called who how long the call was you can see everything I recommend this for you I know cingular has it for sure
but if you want to be loved a cheating husband isnt that : )
2006-10-11 20:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How can your marriage survive if your husband isn't willing to work on gaining your trust? I would suggest u make up your mind as far as staying with him goes because if he doesn't want to change, chances are he won't ever.
2006-10-11 20:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move on while you can...its not going to change. I love my husband, and he has had his new girl moved in a few weeks now....if he returned for my hand again, it would never be right, he will not change, and the trust is gone.
2006-10-11 20:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Elly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Him saying he wants to get back in is not enough of a valid reason to let him in. To simply put it, he cannot be trusted.
2006-10-11 20:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋