what do we do?
2006-10-11 13:12:07 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have full and permanet custody of my grandson. I got custody when he was 5 months old and he will be 9 next month. Go to the family courts and file a petion for custody of the child and have supervised vists with the mother to make sure everything will be ok with her taking care of the child and go from there
2006-10-11 13:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by barb w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there any legal transfer of custody when she left? What were her plans? Did she tell you what she was doing or when she was coming back? Was the child old enough to ask questions about where her mommy was?
She could be considered an unfit parent because she abandoned her child if there was nothing planned.
You need to contact an attorney, and she needs to go into counseling if she has any business of getting her child back.
Good luck - my heart goes out to you and the little child.
2006-10-11 13:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That all depends....has she changed her life for the better?? If she has then i think you should give her the chance to show you that she can be a good mom. If she hasnt then i would suggest going to try and get custody of her. Its not an easy decision,,but you have to do what u feel is right for the little girl. Hopefully your daughter can prove to you that she can be a good mom and that she had made mistakes but shes going to try harder now. Good luck
2006-10-11 13:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word you're looking for is "fidelity". Remain faithful, and constant, to the values you truly believe in. As a parent, you have a duty of love to your daughter. Whatever you do in regards to her, should be done out of love. Be faithful to her, even if that doesn't mean giving her whatever she wants. You accepted a duty of love to your grandchild. Whatever you do in regards to this child, should be done out of love. Be faithful to the child, even if it's not what you want.
As they become adults, we do not always agree with the choices our children make. But we must accept those choices, because they are adults. Being an adult doesn't mean being over 18.
If your daughter is acting as an adult, you must respect her choices, even if you disagree. If she is not, if she is still a child regardless of her age, then she has not earned respect for her choices.
YOU are adults. You must choose, and accept the consequences that flow from those choices. Either choice carries risks and potential rewards. Either way, you will burn some bridges, and build others. Which ones can you afford to never cross again?
You don't have to choose what is best for your grandchild, or your daughter. You must choose what is best for them both, then use whatever tools you must to enforce that choice.
I do not mistake compassion for weakness. It isn't. Do not mistake firmness as unloving.
2006-10-11 13:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i knew what to tell you. wow, that's tough.
first i would have to think of the child. if she just takes off and leaves the child (albeit, in good hands), could she possibly be a good mother? is she living with you? would you allow it?
and the age of the child, if the child is very young, could she be responsible enough to provide a safe and stable home to raise it?
i wish i could be more help. good luck to you.
2006-10-11 13:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋