Ok i've grown up in a good home, everybody has stayed together in my family. No divorces.(not trying to sound snooty or anything, i don't mean to offend ppl) So i'm most likely being naive about this question but my boyfriend comes from a broken home, his parents are divorced and both remarried... i was wondering if this will have any affect on his marriage when he decides to get married. Like are people who come from divorced families more likely to get divorced than those who come from families that stay together? thanks for the input!
2006-10-11 12:51:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
billmar40 made an excellent point. Some questions for the two of you to both seriously consider and share your views on:
What would be a valid cause for divorce? Infidelity? Physical abuse? Uncontrolled or uncontrollable addiction(s)? Physical, sexual, emotional attack on children? A vegetative state of one?
What would you do IF it began to look like divorce was the only option? (some things in life cannot be predicted - so can you think of how you might jump a hurtle like that?)
How would the two of you handle the inevitable differences and disagreements?
Will all your decisions as a couple be completely shared or how will you decide?
How will you deal with complete disagreement between you, whether it is over the small stuff or the bigger things?
Basically it isn't his family history that will make the difference but his beliefs (what are his beliefs?) along with your beliefs (what are your beliefs?) that will determine whether you have the long marriage you seem so bent on. Sometimes it takes a lot of work as individuals and as the unit of a couple to guaranty an excellent marriage relationship and even when you are both really mature about dealing with each other there will be bumps in the road.
Wishing you both blessed lives.
2006-10-11 16:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Charlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. you've got some reason for concern. People get divorced. That's a reality. ? My parents were divorced and my two brothers and I have been married 22, 18, and 17 years. But I think wer'e an exception. Thats 3 out of 4. The divorce rate is closer to 50%. If you love each other and want to be together nothing should get in your way. If it's right it's right.And if it is don't pass it up. Not based on the divorce rate. I hope this was helpful. Good luck.
2006-10-11 21:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Albatross 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in all cases. I've known people from back in the days who came from divorced families and have successful marriages of their own. So what I'm saying is...just because someone comes from a broken family, it doesn't mean they will repeat the same mistakes their parents made, especially if they are mature enough to figure out what's right from wrong and have learned from their parents' mistakes.
2006-10-11 19:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in that thing at all u can come from any background, family situation, abuse, torture, anything and its up to the 2 people in the marriage to really make it work.......i dont believe that statistics can prove anything like childrenfrom divorced backgrounds have a higher chance of getting divorced than normal family backgrounds.. when he decides to get married it sup to him and his wife to make it work..it has nothing to do with how u were raised..in fact i know many ppl that came from divorced homes that put extra effort into their marriage so as not to repeat the mistakes their parents made and to keep their marriage going strong..dont worry urself with stupid stats and crap that people make up
2006-10-11 20:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I COME FROM A FAMILY MY PARENTS HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 40 YEARS, MY HUSBAND COMES FROM THE MOST ****** UP FAMILY I HAVE EVER MEET, REALLY, THEY HAVE PROBLEMS , HIS PARENTS ARE DIVORCED OBVIOUSLY, CAN'T SAY WE WILL BE MARRIED FOREVER NO ONE CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE, BUT WE HAVE A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP AND HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 11 YEARS WITH 4 KIDS. SO IT SHOULD HAVE NO IMPACT ON HIM, IF ANYTHING HE WILL NOT WANT HIS FAMILY TO COME FROM A BROKE HOME.
2006-10-11 20:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Both myself and my husband came from happy homes, both our parents married in 1966, and are still together. My first marriage lasted less than a year, and my husband's first marriage lasted 2 years. So really, I think it all has to do with compatibility and your willingness to make your marriage work than what kind of a home you come from.
2006-10-11 20:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jessiham 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a higher % OF divorce in people who come from divorced homes.
2006-10-11 19:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would guess that people who have witnessed divorce often in their environment are probably more likely to be pre-disposed to divorcing. Just a hunch.
2006-10-11 19:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
chances are...however you think he would strive for a long lasting relationship after he has been thru so much.
2006-10-11 20:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋