please i will like to know how a boy become a man,what to do ,?
fell to give me you adivice ,
2006-10-11 12:44:30 · 15 answers · asked by yahman m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When I was a child we'd get drinks at the drive in. Dad would take off his lid, toss away the straw and drink straight from the cup. I wanted to do the same thing, but Mom wouldn't let me (probably because she was sure I'd spill it). When I asked why I had to drink from a straw while Dad didn't, she said that when I grew up, I could drink without a straw. To this day, I don't drink through a straw... a "man" gets to drink straight from the cup.
Being a man has nothing to do with drinking from a straw, or not. It has nothing to do with having sex, or not. It has nothing to do with having a girlfriend, or a wife, or children. It has everything to do with being an adult.
A child is obedient to the choices of others. An adult is responsible for making his own choices. Responsibility carries with it the acceptance of the consequences, good and bad, that flow from the choices we make. A child is told when to go to bed. An adult sets his own curfew, and accepts the consequences of staying out late, or of going to bed early. A child is forced to go to school. An adult chooses whether or not to gain an education, and either profits or suffers from his own choice... the list goes on and on.
Prisons are full of males who blame society, parents, anyone else for their situation; when they are there because of the deliberate choices they made. These are not "men". They are just tall boys pretending to be.
Churches are full of people who let others tell them what is right, or wrong. They let others decide what is best for their life, never accepting the responsibility of choosing for themselves; never using the mind that God gave them. Instead, they bury their talent in the sand, out of fear. (Even though Christ himself said that answer would be insufficient.) These are not adults. They are tall children pretending to be.
To be a man, learn how to make your own decisions in life. Try to make good ones. Accept the responsibility for the consequences that flow from your choices. Don't allow others to choose for you (though SO many will want to). Don't blame anyone but yourself when your choices bring pain. Accept the pride that comes when your choices bring joy. Learn from your mistakes. Learn even more from your successes. Admit when you are wrong. Stand firm when you aren't. Earn respect, don't expect it. Return it when it's due.
There's a lot more... but this is a start.
2006-10-11 13:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of man do you want to be? There are many "types" of men ranging in age of 10 to 60 years old. Some guys think a "man" is the one who can sleep with dozens of women, some think a man is a man if they are athletic and strong, etc. The "traditional" man is a man that is as good as his word, honest, dependable, works hard, and tries his hardest to always make the right decision. The traditional man starts as a young man (10, 12, 14, etc) and revolves into young adulthood (20-30's). I know "men" who are 30, 40, etc. who still remain "boys" and probably will remain exactly where their emotional growth stopped. I know young men at 10, 12, etc. who have the emotional and psychological depth of a man in their 20's. You can start being a man by being as good as your word--to your parents, friends, and others. Always be honest and others will begin to view you as a man, but you also will feel like a "Good Man."
2006-10-11 20:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by MEDUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a stick about 3 feet long into the woods. Locate a good ambush spot and cover the surrounding vegetation with honey. When a huge 500 lb bear approaches, run out and beat his a** with the stick. If you survive the attack, then you are a real man.
Just kidding.........being a real man is about being able to make sound decisions and being responsible enough to support yourself and a family. Don't rush to grow up, the world will still be waiting when you are grown. Good luck !
2006-10-12 00:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by turbietech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my oppion....I think a boy becomes a man when he sees the real life...when he sees whats going on in front of him.....When he stops fooling around and acts his own age not his shoe size.....
I man can choose for himself...but a boy has to be choosen!
They say something that they have no earthly clue about!
2006-10-11 19:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boy becomes a man by growing up, both physically and mentally.
2006-10-11 19:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By turning 18.
2006-10-11 19:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural law...not something you do that makes one become a man, grasshopper. When the time is right, you will be a man.
2006-10-11 19:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being a man revolves around being responsible for your actions.
it's not a pre-set age but a maturity threshhold that is crossed.
Learn to make the right decision and have the convictions of your beliefs to stand by those decisions.
2006-10-11 19:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This simply will happen with time. Don't rush things....take each day you have and enjoy it, try new things, discover who you are. As you mature and become firm in your beliefs and talents, you will become a man.
2006-10-11 19:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Amy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bye going too gym and working out and groweing his muscles god and strong, and working out to get the great bodfy you want bbye not smoking or drinking and groweing into a man fast enough. its all a part of growing up working out pumping up your muscless and chest and stuf/
2006-10-11 19:49:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋