Should I risk telling my parents I'm lesbian?

Question

My parents are mormon and I don't really know their views on homosexuality, but they tend to be very closed minded. I am in colorguard- where I met my girlfriend. I really want to tell my parents but I'm afraid they will kick me off guard and it will ruin everything I have. I love her and she told me she will be there for me through anything but I don't know how / if I should tell them. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

IF THIS IS THE LIFE STYLE YOU ARE GOING TO BE LEADING YOUR BEST BET IS TO TELL THEM, THEY WILL COME AROUND...YOU DON'T WANT TO LIVE A LIE AND BE MISERABLE...GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Being honest is always the best policy no matter what.

Since your parents are Mormon, they will probably not agree with your decision to be homosexual, because it is a sin to most of Chrisitanity, yes even Mormons. They may try to help you not act on the feelings you are having and give you the best counsel they think you should have. Just remember they are your parents so they love you and usually they know what is best! You are in the color-guard, so in high school?? You are still young.

You will never know how they will react unless you talk to them about it. Things only get worse when lying comes in to the equation.

Also, we beleive the Lord would never let you be tempted above anything you could not possibly resist. For those who say "it is your nature" or "you can't change the way you feel", YOU CAN and there are many who do it. The biggest question I think you need to ask yourself is, WHY are you having these feelings towards women/girls...because guys don't like you/you don't like any guys, it is "socially popular", there are a whole number of reasons you could be having these feelings...also ask yourself "is this right?" if you beleive in God at all, you will KNOW it is not right. He can help you change if you want to.

Good luck

Answer 3

First off, what is your age, Im assuming that you are at least between 14 and 18, and in high school. People cant help who they fall in love with, homosexuality is as much a part of every day life as white bread. Depending your age, however, you may not truly know what you want at this time, but you can be in love with another woman, if the emotion hits. Now, telling your parents, yeah, thats gonna be tough, but that all depends on how you feel for her, and how your parents feel, if the love is strong, then theres nothing that can stop you from letting it out, but you have to use "kid gloves", as it were, on some parents. Just sit down with them and try to tell them how you feel, and do this alone, without your friend, id be willing to bet that they are more understanding than you think. Talk to them like an adult, have an "unspirited" conversation, In other words, try not to get too emotional with them, and they will try harder to listen. Its gonna be tough, no doubt, but they will see the growth you have as an informed teen, and respect you more for this. Good Luck.

Answer 4

your parents will be very hurt but they will get past it , I think alot of people mormon or not have nad sexual thoughts about women, I am mormon and I have thought about it although I have not acted on it , but I don't think it is any worse then getting pregnant at 17 <----- which I did although I wasn't Mormon at the time the parents I had also not mormon kicked me out! I find that LDS have very strong families and although it may be hard I think that you and they will overcome it, just know for a year or two there will be alot of hurt and crying , but then I would hope they will learn to except it and get passed it my oldest daughter is 4 and I am trying to think what I would as a mother in that circumstance, I would cry, and hold my daughter like she was 4 again and pled for her to change and when that didn't work I would learn to accept it, becuase I love my children and I would have to get past it

Answer 5

Color guard...Hmmm High school? Look you may not be a lesbian, you are young and a lot of people who are young try same sex relationships out and go back to being straight.

Hey you cant get pregnant or VD that way....

Be careful, be descreete, dont make any anouncements until you are 25 or so and more or less positive. This particularly with very conservative people like Mormons can really freak folks out.

Answer 6

I dont know what is a mormon but I think you should risk telling them. coz they're your flesh and blood. Yeah, maybe they'll be mad at first, but they'll have to support you in the end. U can't change nature.And if your parents really cant accept them, tell them ure sorry and move out for a while. Sooner or later, they'll come around. Some parents need a shaker.

Answer 7

The Church is against homosexual relationships and sees such intimate relationships as sin. I am sure that your parents love you, and I would like to say that they will support you and still love you if you tell them, because that is what the church teaches. They are human, however, and will most likely be very upset and try to figure out what to do to help you. This help may very well include removing you from the Color gaurd, seeking counseling, and any other number of things.

Answer 8

Sometimes it depends on if ur over 18, and my guess is ur not. Dont do what that guy said, dont bring ur girl over when u want to come out. U should just pick a nice quiet day to do it. Tell them that its not there fault and all that good stuff that it was ur choice to live that life style.and that you just need their love and support.and you'll always be their sweet little girl. If that information wasnt enough, if u have cable/sat tv theres a lgbt channal called Logo. They have a show called Coming out stories and right now their havin a marathon of it. or you can check out their web site logoonline.com. Its a really cool channal. check it out.

Answer 9

its not christian 2 have sex with some1 of the same gender.if u dont tell them they will find out sooner or later somehow and they will b realy mad.u can make up a reson that u like 2 hav sex with a girl and say that every single boy i no is so meen 2 me and makes fun of me for the littlest resons that i dont think i could ever like boys again.u can say that when they found out u had sex and then u say i wanted 2 tell i just did not want 2 braek ur heart.after all they r ur parents they r suposed 2 b their for u(but u hav ur girl friend).
srry that im not that suportive but i think it is sick 2 hav sex with the same gender as u.my opinion.

Answer 10

Ask yourself, "Why do I want or need to tell my parents?"
If there isn't a good reason to tell them right away, then put it off awhile. Tell them when you feel you WANT to, not when you feel like you HAVE to.
Your sexual orientation is nobody's business but your own. Don't be pressured into sharing it with others. Share the news on your own terms.

Answer 11

I would tell them there's nothing wrong with it this day and time its very common anymore. just tell them your parents will love you always no matter what you do. My wife is bisexual when she told her parents about it,they were a little shocked but they ask her now what its like. But good luck with what ever you do.