My best friend thinks that she has to make up things to be my friend and i don't know what to tell her for her to understand that to be my friend you don't have to do the same things as i do, you don't have to dress the same way i dress, you don't have to like the same things i like, and most importantly, you don't have to lie to me just so you can be friend. Does anyone out there have any ideas on how i can word it so she can understand, but at the same time not be mad at me for not telling me sooner. Right know for the most part i am just ignoring her put i don't think that is the right thing to do. Because if i keep doing that she is going to think i don't want to be her friend any more. But, if i do hang out with her and talk to her i am sure that she will make something else up, really drazy and all. And every time i ask her if the lie i know isn't true is true, she says it is true. And she doesn't have the facts to prove it is true, while i don't have the facts to prove it isn't.
2006-10-11 12:21:22 · 4 answers · asked by Karate Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've had this happen to me several times. You have to sit her down and confront her...it's the only way. She's copying you because she envys you and adores you! However flattering that may be it's also completely annoying when your trying to be an individual. Let her know that you love her for being her. If you wanted to be friends with yourself you'd carry around a huge mirror all the time! Have fun with it...try not to be too serious, and really hear her out. Tell her you know she's been lying and prove to her that you know it's an outright lie and explain to her that she doesn't need to say or act a certain way to be your friend. Just be truly genuine with her and everything should fall into place...good luck!
2006-10-11 12:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by jill_valentine_otaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel she's just trying to indulge you to be liked, express that to her. Pull her aside one day and say " Sometimes I feel like you try too hard to get me to like you, I wonder if sometimes you don't say you like things just because I like them - but the best way to be my friend is to be YOU - as an individule...." Be honest w/out being mean about it. Well, at least that's always worked for me.
2006-10-11 19:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all ur friend needs to know that friendship is not having everything in common..me and my friends dont have that much in coomon but know i know what she likes and what type of friend she is..u have to tell ur friend taht she doesnt have to dress like u and do other stuff like u she has to be her own person...and second of all she cant lie to u because friends dont do that to each other...just tell her how u feel and hopefully everything will go ok...remember friend ship is a bumpy road..!!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 19:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yakoozookee her!
Ciao......John-John.
2006-10-13 06:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋