we both want it to work because we have so much in common, but due to circumstances, cannot stay lovers....have any out there been able to do this successfully?
2006-10-11 12:14:57 · 7 answers · asked by OliveRuth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, it can work. But it takes real commitment on both of you to remain friends with the memory of your lovers past.
Open line of communication is the most important tool to making things work. Invariably one of you will be more "in" the relationship than the other from time to time. Again, it's the commitment to the friendship that makes the work worth it.
There have been times when I wondered if it was worth the work, but being given the chance to answer this question makes me know that it has been. Having the good friend as the foundation of the entire relationship is truly the most important aspect.
Good luck, I wish you both well.
2006-10-11 12:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about others, we are talking about you, At least you can say we tried, so it may be best just to be friends, at a distance.
Relationship is more then just having so much in common! What you need to do is, be friends for a while, so you can get to know a person, then you take the next step!
2006-10-11 12:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it could totally work, I have a friend like that, but be careful though. I love him and he loves me and because we arent in a relationship, things work out. Just dont get mad if and when he talks about other girls. Why dont you try the friendship thing afterward? Why dont you NOT put a label on a this? It may help you not be so nervous or thinkin about it too much.
2006-10-11 12:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by scamrhoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I notice that people who have so much in common can't really be lovers. It's usually the one that you don't have in common with are the one you usually stay with. You need some balance relationship. Something different to make your relationship interesting and spicy!~_^
2006-10-11 12:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that because you both want it to work then you have a really good chance. make sure that you set some boundaries/guidelines to your new friendship because it won't be like it was before. for example, absolutely no fooling around and also make it a rule not to talk about other partners or people you like until you are both ready (whatever time that will be). best of luck.
2006-10-11 12:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by burn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have and it didn't work because of the when my ex started dating and telling me how she was , I got jealous and then that ended every thing.
2006-10-11 12:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by jacks_girl618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that!! in my experiences it never works....
2006-10-11 12:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋