Is18 too young to get married?

Question

Say you've been w/ the person for over a year. & You've lived with them for about 6 months. Your family LOVES them and you get along well with their family. His sisters call you their sister & your family always asks whens the wedding?

I do have a job. I've had for over 2 years.
I pay most of the bills right now.
And i'm very responsible.

Answer 1

If you want my opinion - I'd wait. If you two are going to work, why rush it? When I got married, I was 19 - and hadn't honestly really grown yet. Want my honest opinion - wait and grow. marriage is supposed to be forever - although it seems like a great idea now, later on you might be saying "I wish I would have waited" .... don't let other people rush you into it. That's from personal experience - keep in mind everyone's different. I wouldn't say you're too young, but I still suggest waiting. Really - if y'all are meant to be bound for life - it can't hurt.

Answer 2

I would have to say.. whats the hurry. I feel that I, along with lots of other people got married at an early age and I am sure that most of those agree with me that it was a mistake for making that commitment so early in life. I thought I was ready for marriage and I was wrong. However, after you say I do.. its a little too late to back out then without alot of hurt feelings etc. I would suggest waiting because if you both love each other this much, then you must know the feelings wont go away.. right? So.. give it some time, live a little bit of your life being single, seeing the world, maybe going to college or doing something you always wanted to do. You have your whole life in front of you. Nobody should rush you into a big decision as this. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Do not be pressured by family to get married. I do however think that you should be married before you lived together. Living together there is no strings attached and the person can just walk off at anytime. It is a little more difficult if you are married. I would live a little before I got married. Go to college, travel, or perhaps do this together with your special someone because once you get married there will be bills, and babies and you probable wont have a chance to do those things. So before you tie the knot make sure its what you want to do not what your family wants for you. Some people are mature at 18. But you see more and more people waiting til they are a little older and more wiser before getting. Make sure you both have some saving to start out on that would help also.

Answer 4

you see in this yahoo posting there are more DIVORCE questions because people thought they made the right choice when getting married and now realize they hadn't. There is no need to rush marriage! if you are in a perfectly good relationshipthen do that for a while.as for the family sking when's the wedding...just tell them when your ready. Remember just because you are young doesnt mean it won't work out for you but the odds are stacked against you. we all go through life changes and maybe when yours happenes you wake up and realize you don't wan to be with this man. Its better to know BEFORE you marry then after and wind up in here asking how to divorce. Take your time and get to know them very well. Living together for only 6 mths you are still trying to be on your best behavior. maybe try living together for two years and see if you can put up with him then. Its not really about a set age its about a set mind! Think about that

Answer 5

Yes and NO
In your case, (and I'm entitled to my opinion), I would say YES,
because living with him raises a big red flag in my book of values. Say what you will, but you will find that statistically, cohabitation is linked to a higher chance of divorce.
In some cases I would say the answer is NO, because I have known people even younger than 18 who were mature enough (and time has proven) to be married. In this culture, those cases are becomming more and more rare.

I also sense some pressure from the family, and I'm not sure that is good either.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like you are really a big part of the guy's family. The choose is really up to you and the guy. If you feel like you really like him and you know that you want to be with him for the rest of your life then go for it. But, if I were you I would really think about it. And don't let your family perssure you into getting married this is a life commitment and you have lots of time. It doesn't sound like the guy is going anywhere so you don't need to worry about that. So, just think about it and take your time. Do what you want not what everybody else wants. Good Luck

Answer 7

18 is always too young to marry since you have not done anything in life. Your adulthood has not ever begun and you are so very immature. Living with someone without being married is poison since all you have done is cheapen the sanctity of marriage. Sex and infatuation is all you have at this point.
Make no mistake about it: Marriage is very serious business. At 18 you are ill prepared for any long-term relationship. Marriage is only for the mature in mind, in pocketbook, and other worldly resources. You would not want to be another statistic, would you?

Answer 8

Yes it is too young - you're cought up in the whole 'feeling' of being in love which is not enough of a foundation to build a marriage on. Wait a couple of years and see how you feel.

I also note that you are focussing more on his family and their expectations and less about how the two of you feel...?

PS: Did you know that during the first couple of years in a relationship there is a hormone (or summin) released in your brain that is found in mental people?? It's why people act crazy early on in a relationship. Let it pass then think about marriage

Answer 9

I got married at 17 and had my first son at 18 (no pregnacy is not why we got married-we were in love). Although we are still married after 20 years and are still happy I would'nt recommend young marriage for everyone. Life is short, take your time, enjoy what life AND love have to offer. If it's true it'll stay with you. I wish you both all the best no matter what happens.

Answer 10

If it feels like it is right then it is. Only you know when the right time to get married is.

If you have been together a year and living together 6 months then what is the hurry? You have a long life ahead of you and don't need to rush into anything.