How old do you think is to old to have a baby? I will be 34 next month with no children.?

Question

I am a 7th grade teacher and i am currently workining on my masters in leadership administration. I have a fiance that has 3 children already, but i want one of my own. Am i asking too much?

Answer 1

No ur not! It's about that time.

Answer 2

I assume that you are female? If so then the biological clock is ticking. Have your baby before age 40. After that, the chances of having a Downs Syndrome baby increase dramatically. Get it going ASAP. The closer to 40 the more problems you'll have.

Does the fiance want another child? With you? When is the wedding? How old are his kids? Does he have custody? Will a new baby damage the relationship? Do you want a baby of your own regardless if he's there later?

Lots of important questions for you to get honest answers to.
Good Luck, have a healthy baby.

Answer 3

My wife was 39 when our last was born, IMO a healthy woman, in reasonably good shape (and how could 7th grade teacher not be), should be able to handle a pregnancy into her late 40's to early 50's. Talk with your doctor. Medical supervision is a must at those ages but the pregnancy is not at all unreasonable. BTW, check the world record on the oldest woman to deliver. But be ready, it will blow you right out of your socks.

At your age you could probably conceive, never see a Dr, deliver at home with no help, and go to work the next day. Now get busy on that kid.

Answer 4

No, but you should probably wait until you're finished with school and can decide to quit work for the first 5-6 years of your baby's life. Plus, you'll want to get married first. Will your man be able to afford to support 4 kids? Because I doubt you'll want to dump your baby off for 6-8 hours of daycare when s/he's only a few months or even years old, right?
You probably have up until age 40 before you need to make a final decision.

Answer 5

As doctors would say the older you are, the more you are likely to have complications. Have you talked this over with your fiance, does he want more children? If this is something you both really want, and you know that this is the man you will spend the rest of your life with then you need to get on the ball with the baby making. I wish you the best with what ever decision you make and will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 6

34 is definitely not too old ....as long as YOU don't think it's too old. The times they are a changin' as far as when women are choosing to have children. Friends of mine had their children in their 20's because they "wanted them grown and out of the house while mommy was still young enough to travel, etc."...Others have waited until their late 30's and early 40's until they were settled careerwise and financially.
My personal cut-off date would be 45, but again, it's a very personal decision that only you can make !

Answer 7

I don't think 34 is too old. In fact, more and more women are having children at that age and older. Look at Marcia Cross from "Desperate Housewives". She's 40 and pregnant.
I will be 33 in December and just now I'm trying to conceive. 34 is fine. Good luck.

Answer 8

You are certainly NOT too old to have a baby!

Check with your doctor and if he gives you a clean bill of health - get to work! There is actually a test that you can have and I think it is called a "triple marker test" and that estimates your hormone levels and how your ovaries are ageing - it might be wise to have that test done beforehand.

I was a widow with two teen-agers when I met my second husband, we got married, and when I was 42 I had my third child - a daughter who is now 9 years old, who is a bright, intelligent, delightful girl.

I home-school her, we are busy volunteering in our community, we snowmobile in the winter, my hubby and I are foster parents and we generally keep very busy.

You go for it, if a child is what you want.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

40

Answer 10

The older u get the more risks are associated i guess its on the person to do what u wanna do, but b prepared if u wait any longer for a lifetime of raising a child. The possibility of Downs syndrom is more than half by age 40!

Answer 11

You're definately not asking too much , or too old . FYI .... i was 33 when I had my 1st and 34 when I had my 2nd child . I wouldn't wait much longer , If I were you , age makes it harder on your bady , and can make the pregnantcy High risk for you and the baby . You should discuss this more with you fiance ....Let him know how you feel about this issue .