my mil and i got on fine until the question of children came up. she was over the moon when my partner and i told her we were trying.
i'm 38 and this will be my first my partner has an 18yr old son from a previous relationship.
my mil said in (her words not mine) "she would love one of those downs children preferably a girl so she could dress it up in fashion clothes because they always look so frumpy"
she has also requested " if there is anything wrong with it can she have it"
i have been told it is her baby and she doesn't care what anyone has to say.
she asked what we needed and we told her vouchers would be really useful, so she buys a load of clothes. she asked what i had bought and everything i mentioned i got "well i've bought those, you should see what i've got it's a suitcase full"
like it's some kind of competition!! Any thoughts on my labour our babies education religion name whatever it is its wrong according to her. my partner has spoken to her but she has ignored him HELP
2006-10-11 11:44:58 · 11 answers · asked by ying yang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, what a pain in the butt mother in law you got there! Since your partner has already spoken to her, I think the only thing you can do is ignore things she say. Just don't do them if you don't like them. It's your life. If she wants a kid so bad, she can go adopt a kid. You don't have to live by her rule. You are an adult. It's okay to say "no" to her even though it will make her upset. Be strong!
2006-10-11 11:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RELAX. She is so excited that she is being overbearing. Have comfort in knowing that you and your husband have the final decisions because after all, it will be your bundle of joy. When she says she's bought stuff already, then tell her that's it's great that she will be prepared for when the baby visits with her at her house. If you don't want her in the delivery room when you give birth, tell your nurse or OB, and they will make sure she's not in there.
Try to think about the last time that she was able to faun all over a newborn. And try to ignore the simple things that come out of her mouth. When I was pregnant, my mom tried to give me advice. Some of which was against my own doctor's orders. It is best to listen to your doctors because birth babies today is very different from when our moms and MILs last had children.
It might help if buy her a pet. Then she'll have something else to fuss over besides you.
2006-10-11 11:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I'd quit talking to her about it. Ignore everything that she says. She is obviously just a real b*^ch or she could be jealous of you and your relationship with her son. Take her with a grain of salt because the stress of it will cause you not to be able to get pregnant (if you aren't already...you weren't specific on that). Good luck with the baby :).
2006-10-11 11:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of her area. Run like crazy. You'll never even begin to get along with someone as pushy as that. If you can't leave, try a restraining order. Sounds like she's lost it. Why in the world should she think there'd be 'something wrong with it'?!!
2006-10-11 11:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You will definitely need to have a sit down conversation with this woman before your child is born. You definitely do not want your child raised with that sort of thoughtless, selfish attitude. You need to explain to this woman that you will be raising your child and you have it under control. If she is not going to help you out in the way you need to be helped then she is going to need to keep her gifts and comments to herself.
2006-10-11 11:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by kmbauer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with her? And why don't your partner talks to her? Because he needs to tell her that she is the grandma but you are the mother and you need to enjoy this wonderful time.
2006-10-11 11:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ingrid D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a fruitcake. Your job is to try to be polite. Your husband's job is to deal with her.
2006-10-11 11:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to take a jump in the lake.
2006-10-11 11:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by rossj12003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best to ignore the ol bore!
2006-10-11 11:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a freak.
2006-10-11 11:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋