Did it work/help? Were you comfortable? What was your experience like?
2006-10-11 11:36:49 · 20 answers · asked by nc_hpoa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going now to individual marriage counseling. First of all, it's important to recognize that a counselor or therapist isn't someone who will solve your problems. The counselor's job is to accurately understand the nature of your marital problems by creating an atmosphere of trust that will enable you and your spouse to talk about yourselves and with each other. Having established this rapport with the two of you, the counselor may then guide you through working out your issues by using various exercises within the session. The purpose of these exercises is to equip the both of you with the knowledge and skills that you can use to grow a successful marriage.
Assuming you are under the care of a competent professional, the bottom line is that marriage counseling will only "work" to the extent that you and your husband make it work.
Having faith is good councling also, God will line everything up you let him, Sometimes we try to do it our slaves and get in the way of own destiny. But I've learned to step back and let everything take it's course. that's my approach toward life now.
2006-10-11 12:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did not work -- my ex was violent/abusive, stole from my accounts, destroyed/damaged property, and just disappeared to only appear when he wanted money.
I was NOT comfortable (but it was part of the divorce process).
It SUCKED -- I knew the marriage was over and done with -- it was like being tortured to continue to drag out the process. I would have much rather had a clean cut -- since I could NOT have the ex back in my home anyway (he was sleeping around too) and I did not want any more part of that horrid relationship.
2006-10-11 18:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried it. We have seen several counselors over the years. We finally ran across one who put our past in perspective without having his own agenda. Some counselors carry baggage of their own or stereotype. not all experiences are good until the final one who taught us how to solve our own problems together one issue at a time. So there is no need for frequent visits except maintenance visits or when we are at an em-pass and need a mediator choose wisely and ask friends who were truly helped by a counselor.
2006-10-11 18:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by shygirl1270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went without my husband...he was uncomfortable...it worked.
Our marriage was good but I wanted to make it better.
I went to a very good psychologist once a week for 18 months and even though he didn't want to go he was open to changing some things...and would be eager to hear about the sessions when I came home.
We now have a fantastic relationship and it's always fun.
2006-10-11 18:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helped while we went (for a few months). We went at the university and it was a resident that was doing it, so it was videotaped. That was kinda uncomfortable. What I hated was the 1 hour time limit! that's just not enough time.
Anyways, I left him the following year.... so it obviously didn't help things all that well, but I'm glad we went, at least I can look back on it and say we tried counseling!
2006-10-11 18:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and it's good because if you're having problems you'll get everything out in the open and get help in resolving issues. Counseling helps you figure if the relationship is worth working out. At first when you go, it's somewhat painful emotionally revealing your inner most thoughts but with time, I would look forward to going.
2006-10-11 18:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a professional marriage counselor. My wife and I have been to marriage counseling at different times and w/ different counselors throughout our marriage.
Each one/time is different. Some more sessions, some fewer.
The benefit each time is hearing ourselves and our patterns of communication through a neutral, 3rd party's perspective.
Retired now so I can heartily endorse it.
2006-10-11 19:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going now to individual marriage counselling. I'm hoping it will help. My husband may join later, don't know. I needed to decide if I wanted to stay married. He seems to be trying to make things better, but I'm the one with the most gripes. Don't know if it will help, but after I leave the office, I feel a bit better.
2006-10-11 18:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling only works if both parties are honest, and honesty is a hard thing to share with a stranger.
2006-10-11 18:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most marriage councling l ever heard of someone going to said it sucked and was a waste of money.
2006-10-11 18:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋