To make my bf understand me he will just apologize not get it and do it again.I am 18 go to UVM in jersey and my bf is 21 and goes to NYU last week on friday we went together into new york to hit some clubs because he likes that stuff i dont really like it and feel out of place. We got into a fight and he walked away from me leaving me stranded and crying i dont normally go in to new york because i live in jersey so i was lost.I tried calling him but he did not aswer his cell phone i had no money for a cab or anything.I cant believe a guido or Italian guy who was a complete stranger helped me get home but my bf would not.The guy acutually happens to also live im my area and gave me his number .My bf said he was sorry but when i ran into the stranger again and said hi last night my drunk bf hit me over the head while trying to attack him with his beer bottle!I needed stitches?
2006-10-11 11:35:58 · 13 answers · asked by Sabrina c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why is it he does these things and then says he loves me?but no matter how hard i try it just does not seem to sink in to him?
He did not even take me to the hospital and called me this morning as if nothing its like he is another person when he drinks?
2006-10-11 11:36:42 · update #1
Listen girlfriend!!! Your boyfriend is a complete lunatic and LOSER!!! You don't need his abuse. Get out and away from him and move on! When some one claims that they love you, but continue to perform like that, they have huge issues. Perhaps he THINKS he loves you, but based on the actions you are describing, he's self-centered and insecure, so he's NOT going to change without counseling or wanting to!
2006-10-11 11:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie I hope you see he's trying to manipulate you. By doing something wrong, apologising then saying he loves you he puts you in a secure place only to let that come crashing down again.
If he truly loved you he would really listen and take note of that and make sure it didn't happen again.
It's not good either that he changes when he drinks, in fact its down right dangerous.
How this stranger was acting should be how your b/f should act. Doesn't that tell you something? I mean, your own b/f can't be there when you need him but a stranger can? Thats outrageous.
Leave this loser behind and meet some more of those kind people who will treat you how you deserve instead of like a piece of rubbish on their shoe.
Good Luck :-)
2006-10-11 11:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by *Care Bear* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun your bf is a total dick head, if he loved you like he says he does he wouldn't do that to you, im sorry i dont live in ny but i've heard bout it up there and the things that could happen to a lost girl like you walking the streets of ny are horrible and he shouldnt' have done that to you he had no right. you need to lose him i know it might be hard but you could do so much better than that find a guy that you know you would have fun with and go for him. good luck
2006-10-11 11:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if you are having this much trouble "Making it Work", then don't you think (and I know you know) that you should let this relationship finally fail and get on with your life?
You have very little in common and now you tell us he is physically abusive towards you? How much more pain do you need to suffer before you realize how little esteem you hold yourself in? Does he need to break one or both of your arms? Or how about knocking some of your teeth out? Would that do it? Perhaps you need something more tangible...what if you get pregnant, and he beats you until you lose your child? Would that do it?
2006-10-11 11:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that guy really loved you like he sayz he doez he wouldn't put you through all the bull he'z putting you through. He would specially never put hiz handz on you. No abusive relationship endz well. You need to te4ll him you two need a break and if he'z willing to change and actually doez tehn you two shoul'd give him another chance until then, leave him!
2006-10-11 13:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Karina O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, this isn't serious, right? I am not being mean but if you are for real why would you even consider staying with this guy?
Life is way too short to waste on a guy who doesn't love you and honey, this guy does NOT love you. Move on and take control.
2006-10-11 11:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why would you even consider staying with this guy?
Cut all ties with this loser and start talking to the guy that gave you a ride home. At least you know that he will help you out when you need it.
2006-10-11 11:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP THE JERK! He knew you didn't know your way around and yet he left you stranded. Anything could have happened to you, yet did he care? NO, he was just thinking about himself. What's gonna happen next:? He will never change, so you live with this crap or dump him.
2006-10-11 11:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? This is unbelieveable. How could you let someone treat you that way? Have some self-respect and leave him, move on. What a dick.
2006-10-11 11:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you have to ask yourself yes or no questions and answer them honestly, no but's or any excuses...yes or no, that's it
am i happy?
can i be happy?
is this healthy physically?
is this healthy emotionally?
On any heirarchy of self worth your happiness and health are most important...
2006-10-11 11:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by teamlionsuccess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋