I really like this boy he works for the same company i work as too. He is higher than me though. Im just a newbie to the company... Anyways we started talked and now I'm all over him. Im 16 he is 21 soon to be 22. We both like each other really well. And his friends dont approve of us what so ever but he is starting to have doubt.What should I do?????
2006-10-11 11:30:44 · 7 answers · asked by Miguel R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I JUST WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT. HE WAS ABOUT 21 AND I WAS 14 AND WE WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP AND SOME OF HIS AND MY FRIENDS DIDN'T APPROVE. JUST TELL HIM THAT IF HIS FRIENDS WERE REALLY HIS FRIENDS THEN, THEY WOULDN'T CARE. WE BOTH GOT OUR FRIENDS BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY THOUGHT. PLUS IT WAS RELLY GOOD MAKEUP SEX.
2006-10-11 12:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by cbm727 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try hard to put this away as something to pursue when you are older. Oh, the attraction is completely understandable, but the age difference between you, at this time, is a breeding ground for trouble --for both of you.
His reservations and the cautionary doubts of his friends are well-founded. I'd summon every fiber of self-control to keep this relationship on a "friends only" basis, until you've had more time to experience the same kind of life experiences he's had. By keeping a loose tether, he'll be far more valuable as a friend, and you'll have a LOT more appeal to him in another 2-3 years.
What you now think is "Love," will be ever so much more resplendant, if you allow it to grow in the small ways, over a longer period of time. It will be so much deeper and truer, if you culture the relationship with personal restraint, patience and respect. (for yourself, as well as for him.)
For now, I'd say focus on the job, excell in school, and find a way to shine independently. You will be in his heart and his mind as a truly precious jewel worth waiting for.
2006-10-11 19:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends care and that's why they disapprove. They're just worried you're going to get hurt, that's all! I don't think there's anything severely wrong with it but in general, someone of his age is in a completely different place than someone your age...and I wonder why he isn't as interested in women around his age. I can't even begin to describe the difference between how I am now and how I was when I was 16 (I'm 21). If someone asked me to go out with a sophomore in high school I'd say no, even if they paid me money. It just seems too young.
2006-10-11 18:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ithink for some people it show like children the age of 1-13 yeah the shouldnt be engaged in a relationship but 14-100 it dont matter because you know what you are doing
2006-10-11 18:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by kendallphllps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foley approves
2006-10-11 18:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AT YOUR AGE, HE'S STILL A LITTLE TOO OLD FOR YOU RIGHT NOW. THAT'S WHY HIS FRIENDS ARE TRYING TO PROTECT HIM. HE COULD BE CHARGED WITH YOU BEING A MINOR. AFTER HIGH SCHOOL AGE DOESN'T MATTER. PLEASE TRY TO CONTROL YOURSELF AND NOT BE ALL OVER HIM. USE SOME CONTROL FOR BOTH OF YOU.
2006-10-11 18:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he cares what his friends think then he really don't like you so just forget about him!!
2006-10-11 18:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by claniqi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋