There are many deadbeat dads out there. Yes, there are women who spread for anyone, but that doesn't mean men should just stick it in and then not take responsibility, right?
There are also divorced angry men who hate the women they were with, and refuse to pay child support based on their "hatred" to the woman.
Shouldn't they all go in to therapy? Why do they abandon responsibility just because they're all hateful and angry?
2006-10-11 11:20:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, I agree that "if a man isn't prepared" and he doesn't feel responsible to support a child, then if he's going to "stick it in", he should by all means "keep the weinie wrapped", shouldn't he?
2006-10-11 17:52:45 · update #1
bottom line is it is not the childs fault the two adults were dumb and acting out of lust! the support is for the child and thats where any funds should go...
2006-10-11 11:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of attacking the symptom you ought to look at why the men aren't in the relationship isn't being a father in the frist place. Maybe men abandon responsibility because they're tricked into becomming a provider against their will and then are ejected from the family they built by a woman who has no appreciation for what he's done for her. If you choose a mate carefully, interrest a man in making a family with you and nurture his needs as a father then you won't have to worry about getting his check in the mail. He'll hand it to you when he sits down to dinner with the child you made togather.
2006-10-11 11:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel that if a man has a child he should as well be involved in raising and caring for that child.
What happens when the man wants to be involved and the mother will not let him have anything to do with the child?
And because he pays $300 a month in child support he cannot afford an attorney to fight for his rights.
This is the situation my husband and I are in. It's sad when a dad doesn't want to be bothered and its really sad when they want to and are not allowed.
2006-10-11 11:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by turtlegirl247 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course men should be responsible for the children they help bring into the world. The moms should be too. Even if a dad visit with their child, they should provide some sort of support. My son's dad doesn't help. I am financially secure enough that I can manage taking care of my son alone. Does that get him off the hook, no it shouldn't. He does spend time with him each week. But any parent knows that it takes more than time to raise a child.
2006-10-11 11:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Meesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "yes." Remember though, our culture has endorsed this behavior:
a) In entertainment
b) By untieing divorced dad's parenting rights from financial support.
c) Abortion where the women is given the understanding that the child is hers and the man has no responsibility/say in deciding.
d) Men abandon responsibility because it is cheap and it is their only perceived way of hurting the woman who has hurt them.
2006-10-11 11:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you about dead beat parents, ok. They are selfish, rude, and inhumane people. I cannot abide by their line of thinking.
I have 6 kids and they are by 5 different men and only one had the balls enough to stand up and stick around for the 12 yrs of our beautiful little boys life. We are in the middle of a seperation rite now and he still takes responsibililty for him.....and the other 2 that I have at my home that are not his biologically.
I was not a w**** by any means, just young, dumb, lonely, and VERY mixed up. I admit I made some foolish decisions then but would not trade any of my kids for nothing.
My 2 oldest kids live with me and they are 16 and 18. Their biological fathers (or sperm donors as my kids call them lol) have not had 1 thing to do with them since my daughter was 2 and my son was......oh yeah he never has had any thing to do with him. (My 12 yr old lives w me too.)
When I was younger I made some bad choices and lost 3 of my children to welfare and the whole time I am fightin in court did any of their fathers show up to save these kids from a life in foster care? Hell no.
Honey I know all about dead beat dads and let me tell you ....therapy will not help.... hit them where it hurts....wallet!
Other suggestions.......vasectomy, drivers license, taxes etc.
2006-10-11 11:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! It makes me so mad that they get the girl pregnant, and the female gets called a slut, and the male doesn't. Not only that, but the female almost ALWAYS ends up being the caretaker for the child. My friend was only 15 when she had her little baby girl, and the father is not very involved. It's just sad. They need to take more responsibility for the child they helped create.
2006-10-11 11:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of women who marry for money, trap the man, then take him for all he's worth.
Marriage only benefits the woman. What does a man get out of a marriage? Alimony? Marriage was set up to protect women who have to raise children, so that if the man leaves she's still going to get compensation. I don't think it's fair that women get the house, the car then want child support and garnish his wages for alimony. How's that fair. It takes two people to have sex...
2006-10-11 11:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by GobleyGook 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone should submit their DNA so when a child is born the man and women would be responsible for the child. If either one refused, garnish their pay. If they refuse to get a job put them in jail make them work in jail and garnish that pay.
2006-10-11 11:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by RayRay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should have to and DO have to pay child support, or jail.
Maybe any substitute dads along the way should kick in some too, but not as much as the real dad should.
That would show some real commitment.
2006-10-11 11:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋