I found out yesterday that one this girl who i went to high school with(we used to be really close friends) her fiance is cheating on her. And he's full of lies (he denies even seeing his son...but his son is always with them when i see them).
Should i tell her about what he's doing or should i just not tell her and have her find out on her own?
i mean her and her best friend aren't even friends anymore cuz of the engagement(after a month)
i'm afraid she'll just be like the same to me and never talk to me again and say i'm not supportive of her.
2006-10-11 11:19:43 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is your choice. first you need some kind of evidence to show your friend that her fiance is cheating. if you make a false claim, she's probably gonna get pissed at you. BUT if he is cheating on her and she finds out that you knew, then she'll get pissed at you for not telling her. IF he really is cheating on her and you can prove it to your friend, she'll value you a true, honest, loyal, and valuable friend.
but again, its your choice.
2006-10-11 11:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by YeahImAzn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how close you are to her now. I know you say that you were close to her but if you haven't spoken since you graduated or something similar maybe you shouldn't say anything. Also, how good are your sources that he is cheating on her. These things can be very serious. If you're pretty good friends with her and you know for sure then I would tell her. She deserves to know and just take the chance that she might get upset with you. Doing the right thing sometimes has consequences.
2006-10-11 18:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by cj2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know what you have seen. But you cannot force her to believe what you say. Eventually, the truth will come out. Even if she gets angry with you and stops speaking for now, once she knows for sure, she will know who her real friends are. Just be ready to accept her without appology.
Try to understand her reluctance to believe what is being said about the man she loves and plans to spend the rest of her life with.
2006-10-11 18:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you think will she react if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her? You might as well tell her straight and risk her scorn. It's better to be truthful besides. Show her some concern, Girl. Don't worry, if she doesn't take it well she'll come around in time when she finds out you were true.
2006-10-11 18:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...would you like to be told? It could be a lose/lose situation. If you feel as though she considers you as a "friend" then tell her. You cannot control her action(s), only yours. Peace of mind. If she is upset with you (for the wrong reasons)...then so be it (did she really consider you a true friend?). If she thanks you then you are in her confidence.
Once you tell her....let her actions toward you dictate your original opinion of her friendship. Keep your peace of mind.
2006-10-11 18:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by T.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i will tell her the truth take it very seriously tell her that u can't stand people liying to other people.
then you will b more calm.
tell her that u love her and that you are here to support her.
because you are good friend if she doesn't belalive you oh well she will find out somehow. and she will come back to you and tell you that she is sorry that she din't listen to you. be nice to her.
2006-10-11 18:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by lari22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. If she's the type that will put a man before her true friends, then she will just be angry with you. You don't need the drama.
2006-10-11 18:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should tell her, you are being a friend by telling her and if she doesnt believe you you at least did your job and told her. good luck!
2006-10-11 18:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth will set you free. It is bugging you and you can't have any peace untill you tell her. So telll her because you are her friend.
2006-10-11 18:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business baby. Trust me.
2006-10-11 18:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋