2006-10-11 11:13:14 · 42 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have a dog. i have a friend. and the friend has a car and he drives too. i can feel your pain -- and almost to the degree of suffocation -- hope it does not happen to any of us -- sorry it did happen in your case. forget and forgive and forgive and forget are just words. they can never replace the "dog" -- i call my dog my best friend...no one else..and i have tears in my eyes living and re-creating the incident you just lived. i have no word to describe the pain and how i feel.
2006-10-11 11:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by s t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are bound to grieve for the loss of your dog, this will have to take as long as it needs to. However, you do not say whether your friend did this by mistake or intentionally. Either way, forgiveness is important for your own sake, holding hardness in our hearts is a real stumbling block, preventing us from being all we can be, from loving, from accepting, from moving on and growing. True forgiveness means just that, not only letting go of the pain, but forgiving the person who hurt us, and meaning it. It may take time to stop being angry with her, and the pain she has caused, but that doesn't mean you cannot forgive her. Its a work in progress rather than an instant thing, In some cases forgiveness can be instant, but its fine to say you forgive someone, but that it is taking time for you to come to terms with your feelings about it. God bless.
2006-10-11 11:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how it happened. If they did it on purpose or some other gruesome fault of theirs, maybe you should question whether you really want to be friends with a person like that. On the other hand if it was a complete accident and they're very sorry, i understand it may be painful to let your dog go, but you should forgive them.
2006-10-11 11:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry
is your doggy allright?
if not again i am sorry
well i know you are sad and angry at your friend
and anyone would feel the same way
but i have to tell you what everybody else will probably say
forgive her
she didn't do it because she meant to
imagine you in her position
would you forgive yourself
i know that this is sad
i have a pet and i get all angry when my friend plays with him the way i do not like it
but overall i forgive him
give it some time
soon you will understand that it is not your fault
and it is more likely that your dog went under her car
not that she was chasing your poor doggy
2006-10-11 11:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by catherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best healer, at the moment anger and loss are top of your emmotions, Im sure your friend is feeling just as awful about this, but she has lost her best friend to help her through it. Try to take it calmly, and once the pain of loss which will stay but will get better everyday starts to subside think of all the good things you and your friend shared, and ask yourself can I live without this person in my life...the answer will come to you very clearly, good luck and hugs for your loss babes, TJ
2006-10-11 21:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by Biscuithands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend did it on PURPOSE and MALICIOUSLY sought out your dog and made a point to take it's life.
Yes, forgive the friend.
Even if she did it on purpose, even if it were a human, you have to rise to the occasion and forgive. To forgive is Divine and shows you to be a strong and forgiving person. It's far easier to hate and not forgive - but in the long run it will wear you out and destroy something in you. Hate consumes. Love builds.
Pray on it. Walk up to her, put your arms around her and tell her that you forgive her. Healing will take place in BOTH of your hearts!
2006-10-11 11:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not like ti was done on purpose. Forgive your friend and get a new dog. It may not be that easy but you have to forgive her
2006-10-11 11:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by shaunna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your dog, I feel sorry for your friend and I feel sorry for you.
If your friend drove over you dog on purpose then I can understand you finding it difficult to forgive her, but if it was an accident, then you really need to get to grips with this and forgive her.
You need your best friend at times of grief.
2006-10-11 11:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did it on purpose I cant blame you. If she didnt you have to realize as inhumane as it sounds pets ARE disposable. They are great companions and even "friends" but the relastionships you need to keep in life are with people. Otherwise you are just plain crazy. And I really dont think you are crazy. Just upset, but in time you will start to forgive. But in honour of your dog never forget.
2006-10-11 11:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ken J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a delibarate action then run over her if it was accident then forgive her these things happen for a reason . would you of prefered a driver failing to stop so you would never know who did it at least this way you can grieve be angry get upset then as hard as it may seem move on .
2006-10-11 12:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋