The man who is now my husband previously has been caught lying about talking to previous girlfriends on the phone I have really gotten into some serious arguments with some of his exs but he has went to extreme limits to hide it from me in the past one of whom he spoke with more than others he claims they were just friends and they only call him and he never told me because I used to have a terrible temper I later in our relationship found out he casually hung out with his ex but we werent serious at the time although I asked him of this and he denyed it for the longest I am still a little concerned that he may still talk to this girl which can easily be erased from cell phone call log memory he may even see her but I have beged him to have his # changed and he says its been his # for so long and refuses and in the past I have wanted to see a call log and he refused to get it for me! We were just married 1 month ago and have 2 kids how can I tell if he is cheating?
2006-10-11 10:58:24 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only time it's ever ok to talk to an ex is if they have children together and they need to talk about them. Any other time, it is very inappropriate. Your husband has given u a damn good reason not to trust him. I would be more worried about the fact that he's lying about talking to them than anything else.
2006-10-11 11:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating, but how would he feel if you were talking to your old boyfriends? If he won't show you the call log, then he obviously has something to hide. I wouldn't trust him! Can you get a hold of his cell phone bill or look his phone calls up on line. You have only been married 1 month--it is not too late to get an annullment. I would threaten him with that and if he keeps it up, I would follow through. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 11:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have two kids then I count 3 maybe 4 years. This is silly after that long. Tell him you both have more important things to be doing. Take the number of years you've been together - tell him you want that many future months' of phone logs. Not an option and you want him to understand how much you love him that you can't live with it this way. Ask what he needs from you to compensate? My guess it is a cheap way to get the thrill of cheating in.
2006-10-11 11:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you this...you keep badgering him about something he has told you repeatedly is innocent...are you TRYING to drive him to another woman? He has a friendship outside of your relationship, which I don't like, but it's there. He's home with you are you're begging him to change him number, looking throught his call logs, and who knows what else. He goes out and chats with his friend on the phone and they're having fun, laughing, etc. I know who I'd rather be around. You've only been married a month--why on earth would you have children with someone or marry someone you don't trust. I mean, for heaven's sake, he married you! Don't you think he loves you?
2006-10-11 11:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to talk to your ex as long as the relationship remains casual and ok to the currently person you are in a relationship with.
Coming from your husband's perspective, the reason that he hides it from you is mainly because you give him a hard time about it. If you are a lot nicer about it he will probably be more honest about it too.
I think your husband should respect that fact that you do not like it when he talks to his ex. He owes you this being that you are married and all.
Now the real issue from what I gather is trust. You think that since he talks to her, he is cheating with her. You are paranoid too that they may be talking about you. As a natural reaction you get upset and so now this.
Here's a suggestion, why not join them one time when they hang out?
2006-10-11 11:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why you would marry someone who lies and will not respect your wishes relative to his ex's, the only reason to talk to an ex is if you share children together. as for call logs, all outgoing numbers show up on his bill. if you are also on the account, you can change the number for him with a simple phone call to customer service.
2006-10-11 11:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like some trust issues here...are you sure the problem is with him? or are you punsihing him for the way past men treated you? Normally if a person can't trust it is because of something in one of their past relationships that has not been resolved. Good Luck honey!
2006-10-11 11:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just married a month ago and you have two kids? I think you know the answer to the question, you just don't want to admit it.
2006-10-11 20:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY HE IS CHEATING.... HE LIED ABOUT TALKING TO HIS EX B4 SO U SHOULD NOT TRUST ANYTHING HE SAY.. HE WILL NOT LET U C THE CALLS THAT HE IS MAKING THAT IS A SIGN THERE...
2006-10-11 11:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by TANNER GIRL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the signs are definitely there. He is not being honest with you. He is involved and covering it with lies.
2006-10-15 07:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋