She's a virgin that has never had an orgasm. Right when she starts feeling good, she stops me. Why is that and what do I do?
2006-10-11 10:57:55 · 28 answers · asked by Mitch B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK, some of you guys are commenting about it hurting. As I put in the question, SHE STARTS FEELING GOOD! I also asked her why she stops me and she has said "I don't know"
2006-10-11 11:10:40 · update #1
ask her you silly person.
2006-10-11 11:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sunseaandair 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) I've seen women literally scared stiff as they feel an orgasm coming, literally recoiling from it. Suggest she talks to a more experienced female friend on how to get over the speed bump.
2) Don't underestimate the fear of losing "virginity". Reassure her. My fav trick is to get totally naked w/o even trying to remove her clothes, better if she wears something protective such as thick denim pants. This even worked with a woman who had never had sex cept when being raped at age 16. I don't think she would have ever gotten married hadn't I let her make peace with menfolks. Unblocking is an art that requires more patience and respect than libido! Think of how you treat cats. You never chase them, you let them take theri time to come close.
3) Insufficient lubrication? Consider KY or some other lubricant. What she feels and what you think she does may not match.
4) She may even feel you are not the right person for what to many amounts to an experience of religious significance. I am not kidding: if you share a faith, consider praying together before and after, as if it were a meal. In a big way, it is!
2006-10-11 18:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nomore Replies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she's feeling good? Does she tell you that? Maybe your hurting her, being too rough and she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I know when I was a virgin, I made myself have many orgasms, so it must be something else. Just do not pressure her into anything. Maybe talk to her and ask her if your doing it right. Why do guys always think there is something wrong with the girl? Maybe she's just not ready. You forgot to add how old you both were, age is a factor. For now, keep your fingers to yourself and let her tell you what she wants.
2006-10-11 18:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by mkathy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought that it might hurt her?You did say that she is a virgin and has never had an orgasm. When you have an orgasm you use a whole bunch of muscles that aren't used all of the time. She might also be scared of the sensation. Plus, it sounds like you are trying to make her do something that she is not ready to do yet.
2006-10-11 18:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bigbabii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women, virginal or not, don't like that. Respect what she wants. She is inexperienced. Some guys have this fantasy that they will train her right. Some figure they will get her so hot she will give up her virginity to us. Believe me, you do not want to take her virginity unless you are prepared for some commitment. This is a very special gift. Don't squander it. I don't know what it is about some of us guys. We feel a need to perform. If you really care about her, love her. Be patient. Don't rush.
From the tone of your question, however, it does not sound like you care much. I don't remember speaking lilke that about my high school sweetheart to anyone, let alone 10,000 strangers on Yahoo.
2006-10-11 18:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It must be getting too "out of control" for her. You know, when you really start getting into it, you start to feel like, wild and out of control you know? If she's a virgin, that would be a new feeling for her. Go slow.She'll come around (literally if you do it right!! ;)
2006-10-11 18:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by justcurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't want to feel like she is not a virgin b/c it might lead to her wanting to go farther next time u finger her. She isn't ready for such a good feeling yet
2006-10-11 18:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there lol. Shes embarresed and shy about it, she feels uncortable about it. Turn the light off pull the covers over ur guyss head and dont stare at her. She well feel like ur jugding her or somthing. so dont look at her face or stare at her ok.
2006-10-11 18:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by mermaid 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm Read this website, and ask her to read it as well. When I was younger I didn't have much of an understanding of what such feelings would lead to either, pre-climax can be rather intense. Just *assure* you aren't being "too aggressive".
2006-10-11 18:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think, she never had an orgasm?
2006-10-11 18:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe she feels that if she has an orgasm in may affect her mentally
2006-10-11 18:00:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋