I just told Travis that I was pregnant and he told me that he didn't want anything to do with it,..that he wasn't ready for a child,..that I should tell it that it's daddy died. I feel so horrible,..I don't believe in abortion,..what should I do??
2006-10-11 10:56:05 · 35 answers · asked by Killian's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am 20 and he is 22. He is in college. He says that he can't have this because he is in love with this girl he met 2 weeks ago,..on the computer...she lives in Canada,..we live in Texas,...he hasen't even talked to her on the phone yet,..just by computer,..he says that she will kill herself if he tells her,...
2006-10-11 11:13:59 · update #1
You do not need an asshole in the baby's life. If you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything you want. Keep your baby show that prick that you are a strong woman, and that you do not need a man if your life, you can take care of yourself and anyone else that comes along!!!! Goodluck sweetie!
2006-10-11 11:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is lots of help for single moms. You can also get child support from Travis. My nephew is 8 and my sis gets child support from the dad who's name is also travis. They never see him, but you should get the child support because being a mom by yourself is hard enough anything will help. What does your family think? They can be a big support or the opposite. Also, There are LOTS of couples that can't have babies and they would just LOVE to raise your baby as their own. Try LDS Family Services. All the couples want a baby sooo bad and they are just wating. Good luck!
2006-10-11 11:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Emily H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be strong and raise the baby on your own. I hope you have family members that will support your decision. Travis will be sorry for saying that one day. If he doesn't come around then when your child is old enough to understand life etc... and can handle it maturely then you should just tell him that your father was not ready to deal with having a child. Travis could change his mind too. How long have you been together??
2006-10-11 11:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by momdadand4kids 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take care of the baby yourself raise it up to be a great young adult. Tell the child when it is old enough that you were young and that the dad didn't feel ready for that kind of responsible. Always give them the chance to meet. Maybe when Travis is older he will realize what he is missing out on and want to be part of the child's life.
2006-10-11 11:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are now a member of the my baby's dad club.
Get used to it, get child support through the state you live in, don't let him sign the birth certificate because if he is not on it he has no leagal right to the kid. Even if you have a paternity test he has no right, but wil still have to pay the child support, then if he wants rights he would have to take you to court and have the child liagitamised. If he tries that and you decied you don't want him to be a part of the childs life tell him you will stop the child support if he signs over any and all leagal rights and agrees to never try to get them, when the child is old enough you can explain and if the child wants to know an *** hole like that then it will be the child's choice.
I went through something similar. Except I thought well I will give the father a chance after years of not having anything to do with the child, he wanted to see her, after his family came to visit us we went and visitied him, well to make a long story short, the first time he got her without me, he tried to killer and is now in prison. When I would of agreed to stop child support for all parental rights to be terminated
2006-10-11 11:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer Dalpe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all your pregnant so you dont need this stress!
dont worry about the dad he would probably set a bad example, give no attention or love!
do you really want to be trapped with someone who told you to tell his own baby that he is dead?
because you will never forget or forgive him for saying that even if you do work things out and start playing happy familys!
you would be better off on your own, with the support of your family and friends.
send travis an email.... tell him its over and to enjoy his relationship with the transvestite hippo that hes been talking to on his computer!!
trust me life is so much easier with 1 baby than 2( 1 of the 2 being travis!) screw him for maintenence and dont bother with him again!
good luck!
p.s. no matter what you think at the moment you will make a fantastic mum!
2006-10-11 11:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can decide what you will do. I believe that if the father doesn't want to be involved then you will have enough love for the baby. You can't make someone want to be apart of the babies life. He could just be talking trash, and really don't mean it, because he is scared. If u do not want to get an abortion then don't. Have that baby, take care of it and love it like only you know how. Good luck
2006-10-11 11:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...the same thing happend to me. I know what your going through. I was alone through my whole pregnancy. All the appointments and the birth and now he is 2 and he has no idea who is "Father" is. Although, i meet somebody else and now he wants to adopt my son. You will do just fine, women all over the world raise babies alone. It's not what you want...but thats the way it is. Who knows...maybe he will change his mind and come crawling back...but...he shouldnt have told you to tell the baby that his father died. That is a horrible thing to say. I can understand that he is scared and not ready to be a Dad but he shouldnt take it out on you. It takes 2 people to make that baby...you didnt make it alone. Be strong. You can raise that baby just fine. Im sure that baby will be loved. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 11:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sum12Love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have the baby and be a great mom. too bad for travis. most likely he will grow to regret this choice and by then it will be too late. tell your child the truth. the truth hurts but its easier to accept if someone is level with you. lots of kids are raised without the father being around and turn out fine. there may be a man in your future that wants to be a father to the baby. good luck.
2006-10-11 11:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by whatever 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find someone to love you and your baby. No just someone to lay on top of you and cant be a man when the consequences to what he did come around. I would just be an adult and take care of the baby. Don't tell the baby that he/she father died I would tell her the truth; He/she father couldn't be a man and take care of he/she. Maybe they would learn from the father mistake in the end.Good Luck.
oh and don't depend on him coming around after a while because he might and he might not. In the end it might be just you and the baby but having it will be something he will miss out on unless he comes to his senses and realize what he's going to miss out on. Good Luck Again.
2006-10-11 11:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋