me and my guy have been together a year. we met off personals in the internet. a while back i put my ad back up cause i was bored and wanted to see what kind of attention my pic would get, and he discovered it and it was a huge blowout thing, but i took it down and told him it was a stupid mistake. he said he should put a profile up to then, and then i asked him a few days later if he did and he said no im not going throuhgh all that internet stuff again. well last night we were on his computer, and where you type in addresses, a few different dating sites came up and he tried to click off them when i pointed it out and asked what was up. he finally admitted to it, and said he did it after he saw mine. either way he lied to me, how can i believe he hasnt been on all the time and what should i do? ive told him i need time to think. need some advice from others point of view. i am really hurt and shocked by this. i feel like i dont know him anymore.
2006-10-11 10:42:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my ad was just me playing around, his has been up and who knows how long. i wasnt searching for anyone else, just seeing what kind of compliments i could get. i think his was to find someone else.
2006-10-11 10:43:40 · update #1
You know relationships must be based on honesty. Sounds like you have doubts about him and this is the time to find out such things not 3 more years down the road. If you do not trust him you really can not have a fulfilling relationship and your life together will not ever be as you would want it to be. Maybe you both need a break from each other for awhile. That old saying Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder, is not so corny after all. If you were meant for each other and it is true love you will get back together and most likely be stronger in your relationship for the time apart you spent.
2006-10-11 10:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Margie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your still feeling like you need to post your profile again to get compliments, maybe he's not the right guy for you in the first place! I have friends who have been through this same thing, almost exactly in fact! They were able to work through it......it took quite a while but they are still together after meeting on the web 4 years ago! Try just talking to your guy as calmly as possible. Be honest with him and if he's any kind of man at all he will show you the same courtesy! Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-11 17:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jackson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you needed to put up your ad to get attention then you probably should break up with your boyfriend. He obviously hasn't been giving you the attention you need. That sucks that he lied to you but you did put your ad back on. He might think that you were looking for someone else anyways. That puts him in a weird situation anyways. And besides..what's the harm of having an ad as long as you don't act on meeting someone else? There is nothing wrong with seeing who else is out there. You're not married..you're just dating :) Have fun and if this guy really is the one...it will work out.
2006-10-11 17:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both have met that special someone why would you re-post a profile for any reason and the same for him. You need to take some more time and get to know each other better then you both will find out the real reasons why you posted those profiles.
2006-10-11 18:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by merry59 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honestly i can believe you bc i know ppl who do it for the same reason, but look at it this way. if you're truly happy in your relationship then why do you want to see what kind of attention you can get from other guys? as for your man, he deserves for you to hear him out and give him another chance i reckon, bc maybe you didn't deny it, but you went behind his back and did it without him knowing, so as the legal system would say, saying nothing at all is as good as lying
2006-10-11 17:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by gardener24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not get mad at him for doing that when you did the same thing .. you say you posted your pic up innocently but you knew what would happen if someone else started talking to you i think you need to let it go and both of you need to sit down and talk and quit playing games the feelings you felt when you saw his are the same he felt when he saw yours .
2006-10-11 17:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Muy Buena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you learned your lesson the hard way. I am sorry. It doesn't matter the reason why you guys did what you did it is the fact you both did it. At least you know you both need to keep looking for that special someone.
2006-10-11 17:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm....he found your ad on the internet.....I think that's your answer. Looks like he's been surfing the sites, and just happened upon your ad, and wants to make you look like the bad one. Kick him to the curb!!!
2006-10-11 17:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Leslieopmd 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know how u feel i did the same thing and the same thing happen to me when my bf found it, we are still togeather but neither of us trust the other person ,it takes a long time to mend if it ever does.
2006-10-11 17:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by dottie97551 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
his was 2 get u jealous dont worry about it... id do the same if i were him
2006-10-11 17:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tish Tish 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋