My husband is very sweet and usually affectionate but i catch him in little lies all the time. It breaks down my trust of him because I think that if he would lie to me about not important stuff would he about bigger stuff. It usually involves his"private" time when I am not home. He doesn't cover his tracks well enough to lie and me believe it so why the heck does he do it?
2006-10-11 10:39:47 · 15 answers · asked by wise red pheonix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
an example would be last night, I work untill 11 and when i get home he is busy doing something but when I go into the computer room I notice he had taken his wedding ring off and there was a towel on his chair when he hadn't taken a shower. Later I asked him if he had watched the porn we rented and he gave me an account of his day ending with no. When I teased about the towel he said that his take out didn't have a napkin so he grabbed a towel (right next to the washclothes). When I took out the trash this morning I noticed his take out bag in there with a napkin stuck in it.
2006-10-11 10:51:53 · update #1
Well I don't know why he does it but if he does it all the time, then he's probably a compulsive liar and he's going to need professional help for it. Little lies are just as bad as big lies as they have the potential to hurt someone and break the trust.
2006-10-11 10:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Since he is lying about 'private time', that might make me worry.
That being said, however, lies can be habits. Lies are often because they don't want to disappoint the person asking the question. People who seem to lie 'automatically', have developed this as a 'habit' and aren't even aware of it until they are caught in them. Encourage him to be honest. Praise him by telling how much you appreciate his honesty each time you 'catch' him telling you the truth. He has trust issues, perhaps. Show him that you will still love him--no matter what the 'truth' is, simply because you love 'him', by giving him a kiss, a hug, or by telling him so.
2006-10-11 10:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go nuts when I catch my also sweet husband in little lies.
I think it's stupid when they tell lies, little or big. it for me doesn't mean my husband is really hiding anything but more of a fact of laziness. Why does he feel he needs to hide anything? Is he doing something wrong? If he isn't let him know he has nothing to hide & he could save himself some worry & work! If he is doing something that awful, then I can only suggest getting some outside help like marriage councling! That doesn't mean your marriage is failing but that it just have a few kinks that you both love each other enough to want to work out!
2006-10-11 10:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by bubbagaloosch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happen to me a few times. It was just little lies about the same stuff your talking about. It hurts to be lie too. But he knows now and is trying to get better at being open to me. Just try to get open with him and let him know how you feel. I am also praying for him too and I have seen inprovement already. Good Luck!!
2006-10-11 11:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as little lies. A lie is a lie, period.
All lies are harmful, because they always bring bondage of some kind. It is the truth that always makes us free.
Yes, you definitely should be concerned.
2006-10-15 07:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people think it is easier to lie about something than to tell the truth. I guess they think they are good enough to pull it off. It is hard to trust someone when you find they they are not telling the truth over trivial things. Tell him how you feel and hope he sees the light.
2006-10-11 10:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it a big deal or just a little deal he is lieing about? cover up his tracks well enough only leaves us guessing if what he did was all that bad. one lie , takes two to cover the first , right?
2006-10-11 10:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be worried when they lie about stupid stuff they generally do lie about important stuff.But you are setting yourself up for a bad marriage anyway renting porn how sad:(
2006-10-11 10:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive always thought the same way but you would need to tell us more about the things he lies about.
2006-10-11 10:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lies could escalate to more extreme ones. However, you have to be really good at them.. Yes, it does take practice. Once he figures out a way to get you to belive one. It will be easier to tell another one.
2006-10-11 10:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋