me and my husband have been to geather for 8 years and we had a baby he wanted and got married he proposed. you get my drift. but anyways now after we had our baby he is acting like he is going threw a mid life crisis and at first he was not even wanting to sleep in the same room with me and then finally I told him we wouldnt work that way. after that he told me he had kissed some other girl but it was nothing and he wanted to be with me but he still talks to her and expects me to put up with it and then he went out and bought his self a new car and one min he is great and acts like he wants to be with me and then he flips and is saying terrible things to me like all women are scandeless and other things that I am not what should I do
2006-10-11 10:35:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Right now it just seems like he is confused. Give him some time to soak in the fact that he has a new baby. Women are bonding with their children the whole time they are carrying them, but men start after they are born. So, let him adjust to the situation. After that if he still seems standoffish maybe you and him should take a break for a while to re-evaluate your situation.
2006-10-11 10:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bigbabii 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry sweetheart but the reality is he is seeing someone Else. I don't want to venture to give advice such as leaving him but, I think you should think this one out. Look, I cheated a long time ago in my first marriage. I was the same way. I would buy things for my x wife and turn around and be cruel. There was another in my life who at the time I was extensively attracted too. All of my emotions went to the other woman. I wanted to look, act, and be my best for this lady. I got bored with my wife and found someone who was exciting and attractive. I had nothing left for my x wife. A long story short, were not together any longer. I hurt her very badly. Take it from me, I think you should nip this in the bud before your heart gets crushed...
Good luck, and stay strong..
2006-10-11 17:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys when they have a new baby and family in tow quickly start to rebel. (In your mind, this was a long process). Now this kissing another girl and still talking to her seems in my mind a serious lack of respect for your relationship. If I was you I would get a babysitter and take your husband to a quiet place to talk and you tell him gently and not in a agruementive tone how you feel and why. Listen with a open mind about what his response and remember don't try to agrue: this will be a discussion.
2006-10-11 18:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my husband of 10 years began saying mean things to me, putting me down, name calling, refusing to help me fix up our home, and accusing me of things, i had no idea what was up, until he asked for a divorce, and left denying he was with another woman, i found out later he had met a woman at work,and had been seeing her for awhile, i think when men cheat they do come home and pick on their wives, cause they don't want to be with the wife, they want to be with the other woman, so i would advise to move on, get a divorce,cause it's a situation you will have to deal with eventually anyway. once trust is lost their is really no hope in keeping the marraige going. look at his actions, do they line up with what he is saying to you. i would not and did not put up with the infidelity, as much as it hurt me i divorced him, because i knew i could never forget they way he had kicked me to the curb. even if he came back i would know it was only because things didn't work out with the new woman, and i didn't want to be second best. i figured if he loved me enough he would have shared the fact he was unhappy before going off and committing adultry.
2006-10-11 22:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about it. Sounds like he is not right with himself. Either mid-life thing or is cheating or both. Hope you live in a community property state. You may need to start looking for a lawyer.
2006-10-11 18:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb, and move on with your baby. He is using his guilt from cheating and directing it towards you to look like the bad person. Most importantly the baby shouldn't be in that kind of environment. Put your baby's life first.
2006-10-11 17:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Leslieopmd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie i hate to say it but to me it sounds like he is having an affair and when he gets up set with the other woman he either acts like he wants you so he wont be "alone" or he takes the anger he some times feels for her and takes it out on you. best of luck.
2006-10-11 17:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no respect for you or oyur marriage, dump his @ss and move on to someone who will respect you and love you for you. Does sound like he is still cheating and he is feeling guilty, big time...sounds like he wwantshis cake and to eat it to..it does not work like that..plus do you want your baby to grow up with him as a role model?
2006-10-11 17:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Maybe he is not talking about you when he says those things. Have you ever thought about that?
2006-10-11 17:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's seeing her and wants you to put up with it? What an ***.
I think he's got or wants that other woman. Don't put up with his BS.
Tell him to shape up or get out now. Sorry for your hurt.
2006-10-11 19:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋