Should you stay with someone who cant tell you that they love you just because you love that person. Is the fact you love them a good enough reason to stay??
2006-10-11 10:32:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he might not be sure if he's in love yet or he might not be ready to say. Either way I reckon he's an honest guy and that's better than someone who will throw the word love about carelessly. At least you'll know that when he finally says it he'll mean it. i say STAY with him. Good luck!!
2006-10-11 10:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by BabyBlue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you need. but if like most people you need to be loved as well as to love, you should follow your heart. after so much time, if the person is not returning your love then you may need to move on. while it's important to say the love words, sometimes action does speak louder than words. only you can decide from within your relationship if what you are receiving is enough for you. i personally would not stay with someone who i loved if they did not return my love and if i had no doubt that they ever would. you should discuss with the person in question... do they just not love you yet, do they think they will ever love you?
and finally, as cruel as this may sound, sometimes it's true: absence does in fact make the heart grow fonder.... many people have broken up over this exact scenario only to have the person who never returned the love realize that they cannot, in fact, live without the "love of their life" a moment longer. then they get back together and live happily ever after, or something like it....sometimes people don't realize what they had til they "lose" it.
good luck...
2006-10-11 17:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words.
Are there many ways in which you are not only shown love, but made to feel love?
If not, move on.
If the answer is yes, then at least you have a good reason to try in the first place.
One thing that love requires is meeting the needs, not demands, but needs, of the other person.
In this case, you need to know why this is going on. This person is likely but not definitely manipulating you.
If there is a solid reason why the words are so difficult, your loved one needs you to understand, first.
Ten, your loved one needs to understand your side.
And if actions speak louder than words, then conquering the fear of those three little words is a necessary way to SHOW you love.
2006-10-11 17:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they can't say they love you doesn't mean they don't, it might just take them a little longer to be able to express their feelings. It could be that they have been hurt in the past and are finding it hard to "trully" commit their feelings so soon.
If you love them and are happy with everything else in the relationship then stick with it, you might get a nice surprise :)
It took my boyfriend a year and a half to tell me he loved me and he done it over the phone driving home from Dublin one night at 1:30 in the morning.
2006-10-11 17:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just cant say those 3 little words...but that doesnt mean he doesnt love you, does he do things and act as if he cares and loves you, is he attentive to you? is everyother aspect of your relationship good and strong, if so i wouldnt worry, those words will come later, if not get out!
my friend was in a relationship with a bloke for years before she could tell him she loved him, and she loved him within a year of meeting him,
dont make it an issue, youll push him away
Good Luck
2006-10-11 17:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by sphinxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - love in itself is never a good enough reason to stay.
Don't you feel you deserve more out of life than just loving somone?
2006-10-11 17:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they don't really love you is that a good enough reason? Doubtful if they don't love you they will eventually leave and then who is the one that is hurting?
2006-10-11 17:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by athomemommy_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your not getting the love YOU diserve you shouldnt stay with someone, everybody diserves to be loved and when you love someone you should expect it back, why stay with someone who cant love you. Its only going to leave to even more heartache down the road
2006-10-11 17:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by JayNell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not long term no! if u been together for a long time and the person cant say they love u still why stay? it cud just be a relationship of convenience until sumthin better comes along for them!
2006-10-11 18:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by adriboff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF the person does things that shows their love then dont hassle them maybe theyre jus uncomfortable saying it give them time theyll come around eventually
2006-10-11 17:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tish Tish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋