Im 25 years old and i have two beautiful boys that i love very much. the oldest is 7 years old and ive had custody of him since he was 6 months old. his mother has nothin to do with him and pays child support sometimes. the youngest, 1year old was concieved out of a four year relationship in which we planned on being together for a while. well i am dating a great girl who is only 18. we have been dating for 5 months now and i love every minute with her. however her parents found out about me all wrong. they are extremely controlling and were told by her sister, two things,im 25,and have two kids. now her parents have made their decision about me.him or us.keep in mind ive tried to arrange a meeting between us and they dont want any parts of that.she has tons of potential and im afraid if she chooses me they wont pay for her schooling anymore.i dont wanna lose her but im pretty sure i will.blood IS thicker than water but what do you do when parents are too close minded to even meet me.
2006-10-11 10:32:09 · 9 answers · asked by klcb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep trying , sorry to hear that ... try writing them a letter
2006-10-11 10:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by jack jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until one of your kids is 18 and tell me it wouldn't piss you off for them to be with a 25 year old that has two kids.
Thing about being 18 and living at home is you are still a kid, you have all of these opportunities available to you, and the rest of your life ahead of you.
At 25 with two kids, you don't exactly have the same freedom and opportunity as an 18 year old living at home, right? So it is safe to say, then, that an 18 year old getting with a 25 year old with two kids is making a life-changing choice, right? If she commits to you and moves in with you, will she go to college? Will you pay for college? Will she be sitting at home watching kids instead of out at clubs and stuff having fun?
It is hard for you to see this stuff because you're the person in question, and you WANT it to work, so your judgement is clouded--hers too, I'm sure.
I say look for someone your own age. Someone who is already living on their own, and has chosen a life (job, firends, etc.) to live. What if you guys say screw her parents, move in together, and it doesn't work out?? She loses her family and her boyfrienbd over what?? She's too young to know better bro, but you are not.
2006-10-11 10:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, your girlfriend is grown (legally). She can do what she wants with her life. If she really wants to be with you, she needs to stick up for you and tell her parents that. However, eighteen is too young to be saddled down with a man that has two kids. That is a big responsibility even for you. Someone that age should be concentrating on her studies and preparing for a future. Wouldn't you want that for your own kids too? Try to see things from a parents point of view without being selfish. Find a woman your own age and move on. Peace.
2006-10-11 10:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to arrange another meeting, they sound very close minded. Tell your girlfriend that she needs to express to her parents that she cares about you and wants them to meet you. If they still won't then it comes down to what your girl friend wants to do, she is 18 now she doesn't really need her parents approval, her ans her parents should talk it out.
2006-10-11 10:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because shes in college and shes only 19, they want he to graduate and not lose track of what shes doing for someone who is older and has their own kids.
2006-10-11 10:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by camaroconvertible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant change their mind over night, but you can have her follow through with her dreams, and assist whenever possible, hopefully they will soon change their mind.
2006-10-11 10:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have that too but parents never know you right just rember '' GOD JUDGES THE HEART BUT MAN JUDGES ACTIONS'' I HAVE THE SAME PROMBLEM MY DAD THINKS I ONLY CARE ABOUT MY SELF BUT HE IS WRONG
2006-10-11 10:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by the great one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write them a letter and have her give it to them if they wont read have her read it to them she needs to stick up for you too
2006-10-11 10:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by raudidave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋