What would you do if your job were an issue?

Question

What would you do if your job were an issue?
I currently work a full time job, but it interfers with my idea of what it taks to be a good mom. Plus, this job could take me away from my family for months at a time. I started this job before I had my daughter. Unfortunately, I don't have the option of just quiting...so, since my husband and I want more kids anyway, we've started TTC (Trying to conceive) so that I will be able to "quit" my job. It's kind of a weird situation, but please just accept that I really am in an odd situation.

It's going to be a struggle, but we'll have the support of our families while we make the transition and my husband will be able to work a job he'll actually like. Unfortunately, my job has been priority and he's kind of had to work around me.

What would you do?

I never said I didn't like my job. Besides, after almost 2 years of supporting the family, It's only fair to give my husband a chance to take over. He wants to. And I will be able to take care of my kid(s). And if misfortune finds us, we have the backup of the government. That's what they're there for...afterall, it is our taxes that fund these operations. The problem is created when someone tries to live off the gov't. Which I'm not trying/going to do.

I'm talking about trying to find out what others would do in the same situation where their job is interfering with their desire to be a good parent. Not only providing for their family physically, but emotionally/spiritually etc...

I have a serious inquiry and I'm looking for serious answers. If you are too dense or too narrow minded to understand my question don't even leave comment.

Answer 1

I think you guys sound like you have put a lot of time and conversation and thought into this situation, and i think you sound like an excepionally intelligent woman. You obviously love each other and have the support of your family behind you. I think i would probably be putting the same effort into sorting this situation out too.

I think that while my darlings are so young, i want to be here for them. I did not have children to let other people raise.

Listen to your heart. i think better things are out there for your hubby and you.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

Until the moment you are holding your child, you will wonder this. I did, but I don't anymore.
I had a job I loved, and was making good money doing it. I had planned on going back to work again shortly after the (first) baby was born, but after that 6 week mark, I couldn't do it! That's when I became a full time mom. And that's what I still am today.
We have another baby now,and our first is 5 years old. My husband and I BOTH chose to stay home with our children. I work about 15 or 20 hours a week, on the weekends, and at night after he gets home. This is my BREAK (lol) and one of us is always home with them. I started back when the second baby was 8 weeks old, for the first time. On my resume I wrote that I was a full time mother, which is what I am. To me, that comes before everything. That is my job now. I really don't think this little part time job I have now will be a thing to me in 15 years, but my kids and the work I've done with them will always be with me.
There will be another job waiting for me when they're grown and I'm bored, and that's the one I'll take.
I understand if you're trying to build a career, and that's great. There are also options of taking classes on line now, and you could maybe add to the career of your choice in that way, and then you could have that behind you as you re-enter the work force.
Until you're faced with the reality of raising a family, you'll never truly understand the magnitude of your role.
"The measure of success to me, is not the kind you spend...it's the way your children speak of you when talking to their friends."
That's a quote from my own mother. She wrote it down for me, and I still carry it around on an old crinkled peice of paper. That was 12 years ago! I think it means more now to me than it did when I made her write it! :^)

Answer 3

Don't let your job be in the way of having the family you desire to have. There are plenty of jobs around I am sure. Now the big question is, are they gonna pay you the same ans your current job is paying you?


Do you like kids? If so, If I were you, I would open up a daycare! It's not hard to get a license and you can do it out of your house. That way you can make money AND spend time with your kids at the same time!

Answer 4

It takes money to raise a child and not being able to give the child the things it want or needs will be more of a stress then, not likieing your job,

Answer 5

Well. First off I'd structure my question into a cohesive form so others could understand exactly what the hell I was talking about.

Answer 6

Quit!