She is always saying she did worse than she really does. Sometimes I think she just wants attention and her way of getting it is to be pittied- but I really don't think that anymore... I've confornted her about cause I was worried. She still does it and now its just getting annoying. What should I do?
2006-10-11 10:20:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend needs support like yours, and it's wonderful to have such concerned people around.
Please, don't think you can do this yourself, though. Encourage her to get help.
Next thing you can do is be subtle. Maybe your friend honestly evaluates hersefl this way and is not looking for added attention, but use your attention wisely anyway. Anytime you catch her making a positive statement, make more eye contact. Listen with greater attention, and nod more. Be more enthusiatic.
We learn to become whatever others encourage. We even learn to act more one way with a certain person than others.
And if quite a few main characters in her life reward more positive thinking, you can bet her ways of perceiving herself are more likely to change.
But the real work is up to her and a trusted advisor, so please be sure not to take the weight of this onto yourself!
Good luck to you and your friend!
2006-10-11 10:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like one of my friends she always knew she was going to get the best grade or the best scholarship but she just wanted to hear it from other people. so i started helping her down herself. is she would say she know she did bad on something, i would say i know u didn't study and you're probably gonna fail or something like that. after a little while she realized that i was getting tired of the whinning all the time and now she doesn't do it anymore
2006-10-11 17:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Emily F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this person lacks confidence. Do what you can to assure her, and then tell her that it is irritating to hear her always putting herself down. Tell her it sounds like she is wanting to be told over and over that she is good. Maybe she will begin to stop and think before she does that again.
2006-10-11 17:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by country nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were all made equal in the eyes of the Lord. We were made in the image of God. Yes, we sin, we all do. But, your friend was also made in the image of God. And God is perfect. So even if she doesn't think she's worth much, she is.
And tell her that she is a great person, remind her daily how much you love her.
2006-10-11 17:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by mjtarillion@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend does it too....all the time. i mostly made jokes about it..but then i started to get mad b/c she would say things like wow...i cant believe i can be this ugly....kinda joking but she was just looking for attention. what i did was ask her and told her it bugs me. she kinda stopped but now i just dont say anything and ignore it.
2006-10-11 17:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by livingthesweetlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get her a therapist. she might be made at you for doing that but in the end she will thank you allot.
2006-10-11 17:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋