i am a failure in life.i want to kill myself but i feel this will make things worse for the people who care?

Question

I push people away and make them hate me

i promised myself i would becomebetter but i didnt

Answer 1

Don't kill yourself, it's a selfish thing to do. You only get one life, live it out.

Answer 2

Here is the cool thing when you get to a point that you want to kill yourself.

First of all, if you don't really mean it then you are really a loser because you can not even kill yourself and that makes you the biggest loser and wimp of all time.

But if you really want to do it then it is done and you can start your life over.

I did it. I decided I was done. I picked a time and said at that moment I was dead. Then from that moment I started over with no fear or worry about what people thought or what I owed, etc.

Then you just start over. Do what you want don't worry about others. If you are over 18 then you put a few things in a backpack and you buy a month ride pass with Greyhound Bus and ride around on the bus all over the country and just look at stuff and think.

You can stop in Towns and work until you have some more money and then continue on. You don't have to worry about what you look like or what people think of you or what you are doing because REMEMBER you were going to kill yourself so you would be dead anyway so now you can just enjoy being alive.

There is a company called LABOR READY that will allow you to just work for one day or a week or whatever you can work and they are in most towns over a population of 30,000. See Link Below..

Beats being dead... so there is never any reason to kill yourself.

If you are moving around then people can not find you, bill collectors can not find you, who cares what people thinks cause you are gone out of their lives just as you would be if you were dead and if they do not know where you are then they do not know if you are dead or not.

If you are under 18 then just live the best you can until you turn 18 then you can do whatever you want on your 18th birthday. If someone is hurting you go to the police and they will find you a new place to live. Or go into a hospital and they will allow you to live there. But once a person is over 18 they can move away anywhere they wish.

Everyone else will tell you why not to do it because it will hurt other people, but the truth is they will get over it and move on with their lives and it did you no good.

I am telling you a way to get away from what is bothering you right now and give you a chance to enjoy life away from your current problems. Most problems are caused by other people and getting away from EVERYONE you know will allow you to live your life. Remember you can always kill yourself another day, so you might as well give it a try living a different way.

Killing yourself is a permant solution to temporary problems.

GOOD LUCK Worked for me and I am LOVING Life and didn't want to live 6 years ago. Had the gun to the head and then just started over. It worked GREAT !!!

Answer 3

You are right about the people around you. People who do care generally take suicide personally. Oh, they eventually sort of get along with their lives but it always leaves a scar. You might just postpone the suicide bit for awhile. Just in case there is someone who does care.

Want to know something you might do in the meantime? I mean since you are a failure anyway? Go volunteer at something like a homeless shelter or an old folks home or a veterans clinic. See what kind of odd jobs they have need of there. You might just keep some folks company. I know you are a failure in life and all so it would not be an imposition on you or anyone else if you did that.

Just let me know if you run out of ideas.

BTW, I once lost the war in Viet Nam. I really did. Also screwed up a marriage, lost my kid, bunch of other things, too. Wasn't much good. I am just working helping things along until no one much notices or cares about what I do either. Don't tell anybody. OK?

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I've been there many times. Recently I have begun writing my life's story for my own therapy/healing. I was sexually abused at 8 years old and became an angry and rebellious youth. I am now 55. Through my writing I now realise that I missed a lot of opportunities because of that anger. And I pushed many people away. But I am now growing stronger day by day. My relationships are getting better. It often hurts to write things down that happened to me, but it has a cleansing effect. Even in my lowest times I hold onto hope. Deep down I have always felt there is a purpose for me on this earth no matter what my circumstances. Relationships are the most important things we can have and I have found the best way to develop them is to really listen to the other person's heart and feelings as they speak. It takes time and work to develop this skill and as you gain it you will find that not many people have it. You are a special person in that you can see the hurt to the people who do care about you if you were to take a certain course of action. Abraham Lincoln and Winston Churchill were also considered failures. It is often people who really struggle with life that bring the best to all of us. I believe that you have the capacity to deal with these feelings and as you do your life will be a blessing to many. A healed broken bone is much stronger than before the break.

Answer 5

There is never a good enough reason to take your own life. We all feel at times like we are failures. But think about all the things you just might miss in your life if you aren't here to do them. You might even invent something really great or save another's life that may have died if you were not there to save them.

Pushing people away is a defense method that makes you feel safe because you feel that you are unworthy...find something that you can do really well and become the best at it!

I don't know how you feel or if you even believe in God but know this...He loves you and He always will. I am also commanded to love you by His Word....so there are at least two that do not hate you regardless of what you may think!

Answer 6

In what life? How old are you? You are not even a full adult until you reach 30. Thereafter, you have 40+ years to make anything you want of your life. Consider Einstein, who accomplished little up until late in his life.

I accomplished little late in my 30s, but since then, I've affected the lives of thousands of people, in different countries. Until then, I was just a truck driver, though truth be told, I wish I could still be doing that.

Answer 7

I used to do the same thing - make people go away before they chose to go away. Because it seems that all of my life everyone eventually has chosen to go away. It's an abandonment/trust issue...find where it happened to you and deal with it. Work it out or you will find it nearly impossible to truly love yourself and find happiness. There's something in your life that causes you the pain you have - gives you the instinctive urge to protect yourself from feeling too deeply and counting on someone to really love you and be there for you - always. Because you don't fell lovable, you don't believe anyone else could truly love you. It's not true.

It's so not true.

You are worthy of being loved. Your life has enormous value. Ending it now may seem like an easy answer to finally finding some peace and being able to breathe a little easier...let down your guard. It's not the answer. You have to find it in yourself to say, 'I am worth it. Everybody who has hurt me had his or her own issues - wasn't about me. It wasn't about me. I deserve a good life.' And then work your butt off to have that good life because nobody is just going to hand it to you.

Before you can be free to take care of yourself, you have to let go of the past and the pain it brings. Just let it go. Take a deep breath, promise yourself you're going to fight, don't give up hope and go get the life you deserve. Don't end it. You WILL hurt people. Think about how you would feel if someone you care about did this to you...the grief, confusion, anger...don't do that to people in your life. More importantly, don't give up and you can satisfy your curiosity about what life has in store for you. Keep thinking about what's around the corner for you and don't give up.

If this is some sick attempt to play mind games and ask a callous question - I don't care. I'll take the chance that it's not and put myself out there to let you know people do care. Sure, there are cruel people in this world, but there are also plenty of complete strangers who care about you. No matter how hard that is to believe (scoff all you want), my heart aches for you right now. To know that someone, anyone is in so much pain just rips at my heart. It also makes me appreciate what I have and reminds me to take care of the people I've been fortunate enough to find love with in my life. So thank you. Thank you for helping me.

Please do not hurt yourself. Ask for help if you are seriously considering this. Please.


7 minutes later...I had to come back to your question. This question will go away, but I will not quit thinking about you and wishing the best for you. I wish for you right now that strength to find your courage and face another day. Fight for your life. Don't lay down and give it up.

Please do email me if you want to talk. You can also call anonymously and talk to someone who cares at 1-800-SUICIDE. Please take care.

Answer 8

This is a serious issue , if you are serious about this get help now .

I did try it and as you can see they brought me back { I did succeed } and then I spent 5 days in a coma ! My family was angry , concerned , scared , and confused all at the same time .

What ever your problem is it is not worth doing a stupid act like this !

I am extremely grateful to be alive 5 yrs. later . And my Grandchildren are glad I'm here too !

Call someone and talk it out !!!

Answer 9

How old are you? Life is long - you have a long time to be a success - no one is a total failure!

Give yourself a chance - think positively, and be brave - because, life is hard, and it takes some amount of courage just to make it through the day, even my boring computer support days!

Keep hope alive, bro! Find something you're passionate about, and pursue it! Good luck to you!

Answer 10

Just think what if tommrowo or next week can be the best day of your life.Think about the people who care about you .

Answer 11

What makes you feel like you are a failure?

I push people away as well. It's a form of self defense for me.