I feel as though I am just Tolerating him, but honestly he's not the man who puts the twinkle in my eye. Is this just me looking for a way to cop out, or holding on wishing he was more?
2006-10-11 09:31:18 · 36 answers · asked by chicrulz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is a sensitive situation and I think u should talk to him (your babies father) and both of you should focus on the baby..good luck
2006-10-11 09:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you feel about him before you got preganat? If you started feeling different after you got preganat wait till after the baby is born before you decide anything. Besides do you really want to go threw this preganacy all alone. Make him go threw it with you.... that is if you want him to be around the baby at all and if he wants to be around the baby. There is no sense in you going threw it alone. Whatever you do DON'T have an abortion. It's wrong. The baby is not a mistake, and should not be erased. There are other options like adoption. People who can't have babies will adopt your baby and sometimes you even get to choose the family that will be adopting. I would give it some time. But don't kill an innocent baby. The baby did nothing wrong, the baby is not a mistake and the baby did not choose it's parents. Just think about it. The answer will come to you. Either you will grow to love him or it's hiding cause of horomones.
Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2006-10-11 09:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether you love him or not, you will always have to tolerate him. Since he is the father of your baby, this makes him a part of YOUR life. There's no sense in being miserable in your realtionship though, just make sure it's not hormone changes messing with you. After the baby is born, if you feel the same way, it may be time to move on. He will still be the father, but if you don't love him, you should not have dedicate yourself to him. Best Wishes!!
2006-10-11 09:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by janet r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a baby does not mean you can not find true love. Everyone deserves it in their life. Go out and find that Twinkle in your eye. You can still be a great Mom with out the father in your life as he can still be a great dad on his own as well. Remember to be great parents, you will be fine.
2006-10-11 09:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by mandylynn77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might just be hormones and over thinking things. i think too many (even my own friends) women get caught up in this happily ever after dream man. i love my man and he is my world but there are times the last thing from my eye is a twinkle. just wait it out and see where things go. try and work it out there must have been something special about him for you to decide to have his baby.
best of luck
2006-10-11 09:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by and now you know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel an obligation to him because you're pregnant with his child, but take it from someone who has been there. Do not stay with him because you think it's better for your baby. Kids are not dumb and they are very intuitive. If you're not in love with him or vice versa, your child will pick up on that. Having a child is not a reason to stay together. It's just an excuse. I stayed with my daughter's dad longer than I should have because I found out I was pregnant. Well, we got divorced a year after she was born. If you're not in love with him you need to end it. That's the fair thing to do for you, him and your baby.
2006-10-11 09:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by goodhrtdgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him before this baby gets here, you don't want all that craziness going on in front of an innocent child.
If you tell him now, he will have enough time to figure out what what he wants to do as far as the baby is concerned.
I don't think that you should sacrifice this unborn child's life just because this man is not the man of your dreams, it wouldn't be fare to the child, it was not it's to decision to be born (in the future)
be careful, and remember, never force a man to raise his own child.
hope this helped, good luck!
2006-10-11 09:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by sexyblackmomba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't think that he is the one u want to spend the rest of your life with don' t even try the idea of motherhood. It'll make u feel miserable for the rest of your life. Just remember that babies are for the mothers and if he is not the man u want for your self there is no way he could be the father of your babies.Tell him how u feel and just remember is your desicion if u want the baby.
2006-10-11 09:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Tani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you did not love him why did you get pregnant? Maybe it is just the fact you are pregnant that makes you think that but if you do not love him I think you need to tell him how you feel because holding on to him would probably end up wrong.
2006-10-11 09:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by manny25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's a HUGE pent up demand for children by eager would-be parents
don't consider abortion, it's just silly (although I am 100% in favor of your right to choose) rather look for some entity that can get you in touch with potential adopters
depending on your jurisdiction you may or may not get to know the parents or get visiting rights
dump the sperm donor ASAP, he's not worth the trouble
- or keep him just for fun, but be careful: as easily as he got you pregnant, he could have given you AIDS, so he's worthless twice over
2006-10-11 09:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nomore Replies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together for the baby is not a good idea. If you do not want to be with him, don't. But always keep a good relationship going with him, friendship-wise, for the benefit of the baby.
2006-10-11 09:33:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋