Has anyone very done artificial insemination to get pregnant?

Question

This is hard to tell. I had an abortion about 2 years ago. The reason for it was it wasn’t my boyfriends’ baby. It was someone that I didn’t care about. I was scared and I didn’t want him to know that I was with someone else while we were apart. We were not together at the time, but we were seeing each other time to time. I still loved him; we were just on a ‘break’. I told him that it was his baby and that I wasn’t ready. I know that was terrible, but I didn’t know what to do, I was alone!
Now that were back together, I can’t get pregnant. We have been together for a total of 6 years and not once have we been pregnant.
Do you think it’s because of what I did?
Even in the beginning, we would have unprotected sex and we have never had any scares.
I’m thinking of getting artificial insemination done. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about it and he seems fine with it. He just doesn’t know why is so hard to get pregnant again.

regretful,

--camille

Answer 1

it is not because of what you did. let me tell u my story. i too had an abortion.
at 21 weeks.
that's 5 months
that's half way into the pregnancy.
i am married and the baby was very much wanted.
why did we have an abortion?
i had an amniocentesis and due to that, my water broke. prematurely. i was on bedrest for one month but my water never sealed. i choose to terminate the pregnancy (they just gave me an injection in the belly to stop the baby's heart beat), because
1. he was only 21 weeks = not viable
2. he had lost all amniotic fluid = no mature lungs

if he would have been born, he would have
a. died during the delivery
b. lived 20 to 30 minutes max, struggling for breath, and still dying (nothing anyone could do could save that premature of a baby)

it was a very painful decision for us

i had to go home for 24 hours with my dead baby inside of me.
then i delivered him...still

anyway, the reason i share this with you is because i totally know what u are going through

we too are ttc. it hasent' happened yet but we have not lost hope

my husband and i take fertility drugs, over the counter, nothing strong, and i drink a fertili tea called fertilitea.

if that doesn't work, you can try clomid (u need a perscription for that).

right now i'm depressed over my still born son so i know it will take longer for me to conceive, due to my state of mind.

but once i get over it (not over my son, i will always remember him), but once my depression will weare out, i know i will be able to conceive

take care

Answer 2

Camille ~

I somewhat agree with the first person. You should tell your boyfriend because there's no way a specialist is going to do just AI without checking you and your hubby for problems. The thing is, there's a possibility it's your boyfriend who has the problem (low sperm count/no sperm count) and if that becomes of this situation he's going to bring up that you got pregnant before. I don't think that you not getting pregnant now has anything to do with the abortion. I have had four MISCARRIAGES and had no problem getting pregnant. Well we were sent away to try again and a year later no luck of getting pregnant so we were given clomid and now doing IUI's.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

I'll give my answer but I'm not sure you'll care for it. Please don't take offense but first off I would tell your boyfriend the truth. Your relationship is based on a lie. Granted you were apart when you got pregnant but he needs to know he was not the father of the baby. Also considering he was not the father when you got pregnant there could be an issue with his sperm or it could be something because of the abortion. The best thing would to get tested both of you. But please talk to him tell him it was not his. He deserves to know.

Answer 4

i, as a product of AI, am not comfortable with anyone getting it, but as long as you don't use donor sperm, i can be ok with it. i still think there are alternatives, but whatever. i am from donor sperm, and i can tell you straight up that i think using a donor is one of the most horrible things you can do to a child. i have known for the majority of my life what my origins are, and honestly it has never set well with me. now that i'm older and on my search for the man i will most likely never know, along with siblings that i more than likely will never find, or at least not all of them, i know that being born in this way is not how any child ought to be. it is hell growing up not knowing if every man on the street could be "him" or having to ask every person you date what their dad did in his past (to make sure you're not dating your half-sibling). now i'm not saying that i don't love my mom- i will be the first to tell you that she is my very best friend. and i completely believe she is a brave woman. she did this all of her own accord, not telling my grandparents until after she was pregnant with me. however, if i could have been born any other way, i would do it in a heartbeat. however, that's not my choice and never was. but i can speak for the majority of all of us offspring that we would all have rathered been born from normal circumstances and had a chance to know our fathers. please dont consider using donor sperm. our pain is deep and everlasting. we have walk with an eternal identity crisis because we only know half of ourselves, and because there are pieces of us walking around that we'll never have contact with (our siblings). it is a very lonely feeling, i promise you.

if you are considering donor sperm, i would advise you to look further into the situation of donor offspring, because no matter what, your child (or potential child) comes first. if you want what's best for it, you have to make a decision: do you want it to live with this pain? feel free to message me back if you would like more information, as i can refer many other offspring to you so that they can give you their stories and perspectives too.

thanks

Answer 5

according to probability she(between the couple) ought to p.c. consenting a guy and have intercourse with him with an contract that if that union outcomes to a toddler, he could have not any declare over that youngster and then they (the couple) can the two undertake it. that's that if she will stand having sexual family with a guy understanding that shes lesbian and each little thing...