ok, that's a problem...look, im extremely shy with boys...i don't know, i feel uncomfortably with them....even speaking with them is difficult for me.....what to do?? plz it's driving me mad.....though with my fried ( girls) im too carefree and humorous....i'm the leader of my company....i know i lack in confidence....but thats only a phrase!! what practically?? what to do to get over this problem?? plz don't tell me oh! how sweet! or u r still 16 yrs old....i want a practical solution that really works!! thx all of u fro ur answers, i'll choose the best i promise....!! but some1 to help me!! plz only clear answers!! i don't wanna hear again : u don't trust urself or whatever....i know that!! plz something that will really work out for me!! it's happening with every plain boy.....thx in advance!!
2006-10-11 09:07:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's a problem for me... i feel terribly bout it....
2006-10-11 09:08:35 · update #1
im not insane and i cannot afford proffesional help!
2006-10-11 09:14:21 · update #2
its not only with boys i like .....it's with every boy!
2006-10-11 09:15:04 · update #3
calm down with all that insane writing. focus and take a deep breath. just start talking to boys like they're anyone else. start with ones you wouldn't date, then work your way up. guys are just as nervous about girls. keep in mind that they're more scared than you and you'll be fine.
2006-10-12 09:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start small; say hi in passing to a boy you have no interested in. Then start saying things to boys (again, that do not interest you) in line, a clerk at the store or the boy at the counter at McDonnalds. Make an observation about something you both can see; compliment them on something; make a joke; or, comment on how cold, hot, rainy it is. Just a single subject that doesn't require a long discussion in a situation where you will be leaving in a few minutes. With practice and time, it'll stop bothering you. You'll feel much more confident about talking to boys you like.
2006-10-11 09:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As cliche' as it may be "practice makes perfect" . The more you do something the better you will become at it. So, practice talking to boys. Start with some boys, you don't care if you impress or not. Brothers if you have them, brothers of friends, boys at school that you share a common interest or activity with. Remember, they are probably just as freaked out talking with a girl as you are a boy. Hope this helps.
2006-10-11 09:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to get your head around the fact that the boys are also nervous around girls that they like.
Perhaps, start talking to guys that you would consider friends to get comfortable with the idea. You will be fine... it's just a matter of doing it. Make up a list of things to talk about and realize that this can happen to older women as well.. when we meet a great guy....we don't want to blow it or seem silly or dumb.
Good Luck !!!!
2006-10-11 09:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Well since you seem to want a sincere and real answer I will give you one. It seems like you lack self confidence, I only know of one way to gain that and that is to look inward with the help of a professional therapist. Most people don't like to hear that but I like to think of a therapist visit like getting a massage, it makes you feel better and more in control of your life. I really think this could help you but you have to want to explore the reasons behind your feelings....and truly work on yourself. And if you do, you will most likely be rewarded. Good luck.
2006-10-11 09:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to meet and feel comfortable around guys than do 'guy' things. Join a gym. Take a karate class. Hang out in sports bars. Develop a taste for beer. Being around guys more will help you to see them as fellow people, not the enemy.
2006-10-11 09:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by juicy_green_pears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice makes perfect. Pretend the boy in front of you is a girl and try to act normally.
2006-10-11 09:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋