okay heres tha deal. i turn 18 in about 4 1/2 months. i am madly in love with the man of my dreams. and when i turn 18 im going to live with him. well there is alot of stress on me right now. last night my older brother and his family which i live wit cuz my mom kicked me out of her house went to my moms house well my mom only lives like 5 min. away. no one would come and get me so i could be wit my family to. but they went to get sonic which is even farther. well then me and my mom got into a big fight and she's blamin everything on my man. cuz she dont like him. it jus got me more stressed and alot of stuff was said on her behalf. she said i chose him over my family and thats why they wont have anything to do with me and its onl cuz she dont like him. what do i do?
2006-10-11 08:59:24 · 11 answers · asked by angel~eyez s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Angel,
I just answered your last question. But I didn't see this one first. It seems that your mom is really mean and selfish. I don't want to speak ill of her, but I would suggest that you find someone more supportive to stay with until you move out. Again, please email me, so that we can talk more.
2006-10-11 09:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and I did pick my BF over my family so many times.. you are to young to lose your family you need them m even if you think you don't.. and get married before you live with your man if that is who you think you are meant to be with.. me and my ex were together for 5years and it was hell once I did move in with him .. he hated my family and they hated him so I never seen anyone in my family and that was the worst thing I have ever done my family are the only ones that have been there for me no matter what and I moved out when I was 18 just like you are wanting to do .. chic that would be the wrong thing to do .. and it will never work out .. you think in will now and it might for a few years but in the end it want so think really hard before you make a life changing decision.. good luck
2006-10-11 16:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by nobodysangel2469 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A family has an unconditional love for all in the family. If this is the man you want to be with then be with him. You don't choose your family or children but you do choose who you share your life with. They will learn to accept him whether they like it or not, it's your decision and they will addapt, they have no choice because they do love you. Parents want the best for their children and forget that they need to back off sometimes and let them grow up and be their own adult. You mother will need time if she feels this strongly but it's probably out of love and you are just coming of age. She's worried about you!
2006-10-11 16:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Liome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is kind of hard to live with the fact that you love someone and your mom does not agree with it because she doesn't like the person. I think you just need to talk to your mom and let her know you want to be part of the family but you love the guy so she needs to think about that and put the fact that she doesn't lke him aside. It may take time but give her a chance to come around and get to know the guy..
2006-10-11 16:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by manny25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you do not want to hear this but it is simple. You are just too young to be living with a man. Just out of a single bed your mother paid for. Not that your parents are right and are trying to teach you. No, that is not the reason, Angel Eyes, listen to me you are too young to go from sleeping in single bed your parents paid to sharing a bedroom with a man. It is as simple as 2+2=4
Prove to yourself that you are growing up do not run to a man for unresolced issues with your family.
2006-10-11 16:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girls best friend is her mother... the fact that she's thrown you out makes me wonder what kind of decisions you've made in your life. Maybe you need to slow your roll and wait until you're better equipped to make life decisions before you decide to move in with a man.
It's been my experience that people who're alienated from family members are usually the reason for the alienation in the first place.... usually that is.
2006-10-11 16:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are all concerned about what's best for you... and they are blaming your man for the fact you are still not living at home.
I guess she forgets what it is like to be young and in love. You need to calmly talk things out with your Mom, then with the rest of your family.
They will come around when they see the 2 of you working things out okay.
Their drama is only out of love and caing for you.
Good Luck!
2006-10-11 16:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you r mad at ur mom but hey shes rite.ur not in the age of love movin out to ur MANS house stick with ur mom but if u LOVE him go with him but make sure he loves u not ur body. i dont know any about this cuz i am just 12 but my sis had a boyfriend and it pretty much almost ruined the family and shes 18 2 just in setemper but they broke up so think about it.
2006-10-11 16:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lidia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life. You have do what makes you happy and make mistakes in live and learn from them. If you continue to do what others want you to do you will never find true happiness!!!
My mother does not like my daughters father because of the things that him and I went through when I was pregnant, but we are now trying to work it out and I could care less if she is happy about it or not.
2006-10-11 16:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by shaqmc21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They can't choose who you fall in love with. But remember, your mom has more experiance than you. Does she have a GOOD reason not to like him???? Are you in denial??? If not, then just kill them with kindness, and move on with your life with your man. Eventually they will get over it. BUT, if they have a good reason not to like him, maybe you should pay attention to what she has to say. Maybe she is REALLY trying to save you some heartache, because honey, believe me, heartache is NO JOKE.
2006-10-11 16:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by jennymustafa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋