The man I love moved 450 miles away for his job. I have a daughter and she is in High School where we are. I am so pulled between the two she wants to finish high school out here. I Love him so so much and we call everyday and we tell each other that we love each other each day but he says he doesn't have the money to buy gas to travel back and forth and its hard for me also its an 8 hr drive. In Oct of last year is when he went and he said if I didn't come then he was going to find someone and move on. Well he begged me but I could not leave my daughter but I truly love him. He says he is trying to get a job further north and can renew his lease so he has a lady friend and she offered to let him move in with her. He says we will be together someday and tells me everyday that he loves me. But come to find out he has had sex with this lady but said he doesn't love her. So I told myself if he moves in I am done but its depressing me so so bad. What would you do?
2006-10-11 08:27:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would cherish the memories of the good times and say good-bye!
This man is trying to make you choose between him and your daughter! I do not see the love he claims to have for you when he is trying to force you to make an impossible choice. And if he loves you so much, how can he so easily go into another woman's arms and home?!?!
It is sad, and it is heartbreaking, but time always makes things easier. There are better men for you.
2006-10-11 08:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would (and you need to) move on. The man cheated on you with another woman! If he truly and honestly loved you, he never would have done such a thing. He would have been true and faithful to you. Saying he's going to leave you if you don't move to where he is, that's not love! Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is faithful and honest. This man, he's not being patient, and cheating on you certainly was not kind, faithful OR honest! There are men out there who are better than that. You deserve someone who will love you completely, who will be faithful to you no matter what. Right now, your daughter is the most important thing in your life. She's certainly more important than this man you speak of. You need to be thinking about what is in her best interest. No mother should ever be torn between her child and the man she loves. Her child should always come first.
2006-10-11 15:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by writer_girl20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him he has already had sex with this woman ? You cannot trust him . He is trying to make you choose between your daughter and him . Let him go . He obviously is attracted to this other woman . He is slim because he has already violated your trust by having sex with this other woman. Move on you can find someone much better and someone you can trust.You will get over the depression. Yes be done with him.
2006-10-11 15:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? I would say "See Ya!" to the man and kick him to the curb. He sounds like a heel, giving you an ultimatum like that then moving in with some bimbo and having sex with her, while stringing you along. Your daughter is most important. Keep her where she is and you will find a better man soon. Good luck.
2006-10-11 15:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound cruel, but he has already moved on.Sometimes it's hard to see the big picture when you are right in it. Anyone who really loved you would not use the threat of finding someone else.
Please realize that your daughter is your priority,and this man is no good. He already had sex with that lady friend. Of course he said he doesn't love her, he probably doesn't, but he was happy to have sex with her.
Please move on! He is not worthy of you.
2006-10-11 15:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Geronimo5 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, why did he move away in the first place? That asked, I would move on. I know that isn't what you want to hear and it is sad and painful for you. If he truly loved you, he would have found a way to make this work. I am sorry for you...good luck!
2006-10-11 15:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is no good .. Move on... never leave your daughter for some guy who honestly don't want you anymore and don't have the balls to tell you the truth. Your daughter should come first in your life.
2006-10-11 15:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I would say you made the right decision... your daughter comes first... and it appears he has moved on already. Get out and date! Mingle with other singles... you will find someone new. My heart reaches out to you for your relationship loss.
2006-10-11 15:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you, he's just using you because you were convenient. Now he figures he'll move on to the next victim. if he really cared for you, he would have either waited for your daughter to graduate or figured another plan on his job to be closer to you. Wise up, kick him to the curb.
2006-10-11 15:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to face reality. It is over!!! Your first duty is to your daughter!
You played this right all along.
2006-10-11 15:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋