how do i train my man?

Question

am getting really sick of doing all the cooking and the washing up, often i will spend ages cooking then he will decide he doesnt like it-even though he ate it a few weeks ago! he is worse than a fussy child and it is really getting me down, any suggestions on how to turn him into a helpful human?

we have been together 4 years, living together 3, always been an issue but never this bad!

He does work hard but i also work full time.

Answer 1

Tell him to make his own F****** tea!

Answer 2

Just tell him flat out that you are not his mother, maid, cook, and so on. He is a grown man and if you work also then he should pitch in around the house too. If you aren't working outside the home, try making some things his choice and get him to join in on the cooking. Compliment him, (like you would a child), if he makes a meal that you enjoy. He may like that and do the cooking sometimes. I've taught my BF how to fix a few things and he will cook sometimes w/o my suggesting it! Now I get the messy kitchen but it's better than both.

Answer 3

to him you could be his cook and clean wife not companion? Dump him if its so.
Looks like that you got a raw deal in this marriage. You can't change him, or atleast you will both fight trying.
Hire some help, and if you can't afford it just survive.
Why not switch roles, maybe you go out and work so he can stay in cook and clean?
ps: if u hate cooking, your cooking will be bad! Surely washing up!! I mean what a jerk is he? thats the easiest thing to do.

Answer 4

its simple get him to do his own meals,while you do your own then the problem is taken from you and dealt on his plate as so to speak
if he says he cant cook tell him there are plenty of men who can and do cook for themselves in relationships and also suggest he either gets take aways or goes to cookery classes like lots of other men do nowadays.
your annoying fussy partner will soon shut up and soon stop giving you a head ache and if he dont tell him to act like a man and be grown up and more self sufficient its the 21st century and not the stone age the old fossil,all the best,i hope he sorts himself out sounds like a baby

Answer 5

Sorry to be so harsh but if you keep doing it all and think you have to some how train him thats not going to work.
If he doesn't like what you cook and what you want to eat and he isn't going to tell you before you put it on the table then don't cook for him. What you want to eat and cooking for yourself is important too.
I guess you kind of feel like your love is being rejected and taken for granted all the while.
Does he ever take you out for a romantic dinner?
Doesn't he realize or care that his behaiviour is getting you down.
If he cares for you, he shouldn't need training to make you feel happy, appreciated and loved. Ask yourself why? Don't just let him sweet talk his way out of it.

Answer 6

Don't cook for him just let him make his own. If he's half-decent he'll realise all the time and effort that you put into cooking and cleaning for him and will help out. Make sure that you don't always cook and wash up though - try alternating so one night you cook and he washes up and the next night he cooks and you wash up, etc.

Answer 7

You need to have a serious and adult conversation with him. OK your question wasn't formed with much tact. This isn't abot 'training' your man but about asking him for resepct and for him to pull his own weight. So ask for it. You deserve it. I do most of the cooking for my partner but he always thanks me even if it has been less than perfect.

Tell him straight that his behaviour is unacceptable and that for you both to continue in a happy relationship things have to change. Ask him why he feels it is ok to act like this. He will probably deny it. So then you ask him to remember the conversation and next time he says he doesn't like his dinner or doesn't do the washing up remind him of the conversation. Don't play games with him be as honest and straighforward as you can.

Answer 8

Well you could always start by throwing him a stick and telling him to fetch, then progress to making him sit and then finally if that don't work take all your clothes off, ask him if he likes what he sees and if he says yes tell him he's getting no more of it till he pulls his weight around the house and stops being fussy. If all the other training's failed I bet he will SIT UP & BEG for sure.

Answer 9

I got loads of female friends in this situation and it pisses me right off (cuz I don't get away with it - jokin). You are being suragate mum and you are right he needs to be retrained! The whip would work for me but not everyone as weird as me lol. Cook for youself and only do your own washing etc it will either work or you will be single by next week - worth a try????????

Answer 10

easy cook dinner has normal but only wash up your bits after a while there will only be one plait in the cupboard for you, start giving him his dinner on the floor like a dog. if that fails buy a whip and if he complains spank him harder, he will soon get fed up with the marks and the hurting of not being able to sit down that he will have no choice but to stand and cook, clean etc etc lol

Answer 11

I think you are doing too much for him, he knows that and he is taking advantage of this. You should spend more time doing things for you and less for him and ask him to help you with the cooking or the washing.