i have been married to the same women now for 25 yrs.and found my first love from back when i was a kid.we have been lovers now for 4 months,and my wife knows about it.but wants me to stop being with her.they both love me what can i do?
2006-10-11 08:22:25 · 14 answers · asked by mel g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your wife is your wife. You have built a life together and you are being selfish. If your wife is smart she would leave you and let you suffer. It is not fair to either person. But, honsetly your feelings don't hold a candle to those of your wife. She has been by your side throught good and bad, held your hand thought parents deaths, births, partys, she has done your laundry, cooked your meals, rasised your children(if you have any). And the way you say thank you for years of devotion is to have an affair with a woman you use to date. Your "first love". Obviously, this relationship did not work in the past so why would it work now? And why would you hurt your wife. How can you do that to someone you "love"? Your wife is dying inside. Wether she is showing you a strong side or not. She is hurt insecure and broken. And you have done this to her. So, instead of asking what are you gonna do they both love me waa waa look at what is happening to me. Why don't you get on your hands and knees and beg your wife to take you back. Stand up and be a man. You know the right answer. Why did you even bother to ask the question?
2006-10-11 08:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by *~Love is Dead~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I dont think you love and respect your wife too much to be doing that to her. Second the other woman is being trampy to be sleeping w/ someone elses husband.The best thing you could do is stop with the other woman and never have ANY contact w/her and deal with your wife that will not trust you (and why should she?) Or you can not be married and be single or be w/ the other woman. Its not fair to ur wife that ur doing this. Imagine what shes going thru and how she feels. Turn it around what would u do if it was her doing that to you. What ever you say thats what u should do.
2006-10-11 08:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated that they both love you, but who do YOU love? I'm not going to raz you because you have put your wife in a bad position, and not to mention are hurting her deeply - I'm SURE you know that. You need to look within yourself, and decide who you want to be with, and choose - one. IF a divorce is necessary, so be it, at least you aren't stringing someone along and killing their spirit in the process. If you do decide to stay with your wife, you had better do some major kissing a$$, and show her that you love her and ONLY her. You know what's right and what isn't. I wish you luck! Take care!
2006-10-11 08:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident, it fairly is available to love 2 human beings on an analogous time. however the affection for each man or woman isn't an analogous love. it fairly is each so often no longer uncomplicated to differentiate the two loves, yet once you evaluate the two human beings, you will be waiting to work out some adjustments. Loving 2 human beings on an analogous time seems to fill voids from each man or woman. what's lacking in one love is gained in the different and vise versa. yet, loving 2 human beings can and does reason injury to all in touch. ultimate element to do is be honest with your self and to the two companion and young ones...
2016-12-13 06:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by erke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it appears you love neither woman because you are hurting your wife of 25 years-- the one that has had to put up with you and your bunions and constipation--, and using your gal-pal for sex with no strings attached. The only person you truly love is yourself. You're a cad.
2006-10-11 08:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, although its confusing, count yourself lucky. Plenty of people have NOBODY in love with them. Enjoy whatever attention you can give and get. Do the dance. See what happens. I would take love from and to 100 people if I could get it.
2006-10-11 08:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your wife's wishes as you took vowels with her in God's eyes. If you can't do this, then get a divorce before seeing the second woman. God frowns on this without just cause.
2006-10-11 08:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Its called polyamory and I suggest you google it and read all abt it. If after much real discussion you decide its not for you then at least after u have been informed and discuss it u can make an informed decision..
2006-10-11 08:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by eaton63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. you should deffinitaly talk to your wife seriously about it. Igf she doesnt like that you see her then i would just stop seeing her. kuz this can end up in a divorse. thats what happened to my parents.
2006-10-11 08:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Brandon A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to utah? seriously it's not fair to the ladies that love you. you have to choose one or the other or none at all. go with your first instinct, it's usually the correct one.
2006-10-11 08:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋