Can anyone here honestly say they have found their soulmate and does it even exist? Is there anyone out there that still believes in love the way I do... that it is more important than career, money, and this commercialized society we live in that says having a big house and a fancy car is happiness when in reality it is not? I am a married 36 year old male. Now I love my wife, but I sometimes feel that there is a part of me inside that's missing or that truly isn't complete or connected. And it's that something that I yearn for the most that makes me smile... that makes my heart leap with joy... that let's me love and be loved the way that unites, connects, and completes. Does anyone in here have that? I wish I could have that. Again... I love my wife and she is a good woman... am I just focusing too much on our uncommon qualities? Am I just being a dreamer? What do I do? How do I get over this empty feeling inside? How can one be connected to one you have nothing in common?
2006-10-11 08:19:13 · 19 answers · asked by ezlayedback 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yea i think that there is one out there for everyone. i think that more times tho the soulmate is already taken......good luck with ur wife and i hope u find what ur lookin for. just dont go looking when ur beautiful loving wife is at home and there for u, it aint worth it.
2006-10-11 08:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time.
However, there are several viewpoints as to how to describe "soul mates" ... even on how to spell it! Some people spell the term as a whole word, soulmate and others, prefer to keep it as two words, soul mate.
The soul mate could be a friend, business partner, parent, child, sibling, spouse or other family member. These soul mates can be of the same or opposite sex.
Some researchers don't believe a soul mate is the ideal or one and only person in someone's life. Their definition of soul mates are people who together want to work on making their marriage or relation a great one. Their relationship feels like a natural fit, and although they need to work on their marriage or relation, it is not hard to do. When soul mates first meet, there is an immediate sense of being at ease and connected.
I believe that your wife could be soulmate of you if you are willing to work more hard on your marriage ask yourself why is something missing or is incomplete and try to change it.
2006-10-11 08:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the answer is yes it is possible and I do believe in soulmates..I have found mine. I beleive in love and it hits you when you least expect it..society puts pressure on all of us we need to remember this" He who dies with the most toys wins" I think not becuz he is still dead...I don't need or want to keep up with the "Jones" per say, No need for the million $ home, rollsroyce, or all the diamonds in the world.No ne of that will make me happy, it comes within ones self and being with the person who can make u smile when all else fails, when ur heart still skips a beat when they enter a room, or the butterfly belly..I still have that with my guy...we are so broke right now, we can't afford to cross the st. never mind pay attention..lmao..But we have each other and thats all the richness I need in this world...
2006-10-12 04:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by dreamgirl_deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there are soulmates. One can get along with another very well, as one could get along with someone else just as easily. I don't think we are destined to be with just one person. We are attracted to people who have common interests with us. That's how we are able to move on after spouses die...because that isn't the only person that we could be just as happy with.
As for you and your situation, I would really do some soul searching to figure out if this isn't some fantasy of finding a woman who is more suited to your liking because your wife isn't all about pleasing you as she at one time may have been...when you were courting.
2006-10-11 08:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be honest my husband and I get into it every now and then and usually its over stupid stuff. It sticks in my mind sometimes and I dont let it go and usually make a bigger deal out of the situation. But I can also say he takes care of me and the kids and sometimes I probably take him for granted. He has given me a better life than what I had at home 8 years ago but know matter how mad I get at him I am thankful that he loves me the way he does.
2006-10-11 08:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone or atleast most people go through this..I am married 39 ,great wife....It seems that I constantly compare my wife to the idea of what a wife should be or to the girls I work with or girls I pass...the comparissons are so unfair..And the emptiness is really more to do with me and less to do with them..
I personally do not believe in that notion of a soulmate, I think there are people who are more compatible ofcourse and ssometimes I feel completely disconected but overall..I think I am lucky most of the time and ...I married up...good luck and go forward...Lennon
2006-10-11 08:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by LENNON3804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it there are so many people in this world its a wonder anyone finds someone. Its normal to feel the way you do, just try and think about what life would be like w/o your wife? Can you live w/ that? If you can then maybe you need a change, but remeber change is not always what you really want. Be careful!!
2006-10-11 08:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there really are soul mates out there i found mine when i was just a kid i lost him at age 18 both of us married other people but we are still connected in a way that far surpasses anything i could put into words. his wife left him 6 months ago and my husband just left me this month. my soul mate and i are finally going to be together in two weeks. I am 48 years old now. he is worth the wait.
2006-10-11 08:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by jusme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you married this woman for a reason. Just 'cuz you don't have that "She completes me, my heart leaps" feeling when you think of her doesn't mean she's not your soul mate. After having several relationships with men that made me sizzle, ache, yearn for them, then they left me because they had no true substance, I married a straightforward, old-fashioned man, my polar opposite, with whom I am "comfortable." Do I ache with desirous longing for him when he's not there? No. Does he make me drown in passion like I've never felt before? No. Is he my soulmate? Yep, he's the one! He's there for me. He's my hero. I love him forever. Now, think about your wife. Make her your hero. Love her forever. Good luck.
2006-10-11 08:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's an old kabbalistic story, that when god first made man, he made him in the image of god...both male and female, as one person. And that when man displeased god, god split man asunder, and that Man became split into woman and man, and that is what is truly meant by leaving eden...that we would spend the rest of eternity looking for our other half.
Everyone makes the choice of what is "good enough". The thing to remember is that happiness is a choice. And that it is transitory, to be appreciated in all cases... one of the problems with romantic love, is we look to others to find that connection and fulfillment. Sometimes it happens. But sometimes, we may not have that. As JC says...follow your bliss. (Joseph Campbell)
But the truth is, everything is a trade off. Even if you find your soul-mate, you may have problems in other areas. The key is to find happiness in all things, to train yourself to look for what is good.
2006-10-11 08:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope i can help you. I think there is a mate for us out there. What we do for this person to become a soul mate is the problem. We go out there and want everything perfect, well we are not perfect our self. We need to accept one another for who we are , no matter what. I think we as people give up to easy and let our soul mates go with out knowing and thinking there is something better out there. Work with what you have and eventually you will be rewarded.
2006-10-11 08:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋