Someone who used to be my best friend at work is calling me names and giving me horrible looks.
She has also said things about me behind my back and it's driving me crazy because I'm on the same team as her.
I announced that I got engaged last year and when I announced it at work everyone was really happy for me except her - she just stormed right past me and I eavesdropped on a conversation between her and another colleague. She said that me being engaged at 20 is disgusting and that I'm a child. She then said girls in the 50s got engaged at 20 and says I'm stupid.
She isn't exactly young, she's in her mid - 30s but she's not exactly acting like it. I can't even talk to friends at work coz they're scared that she'll get revenge on them - she always knows what's going on in everyone's lives coz she's a nosy person and she's very bossy.
I can't even talk to my boss coz she's really good mates with her so my chances of a grievance procedure aren't good. I don't know what to do. :(
2006-10-11 08:17:03 · 4 answers · asked by cascada1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well she's not married. She's been out with lots of guys but most relationships with them had failed. She often manages to pull guys but nothing serious ever seems to come out of it.
2006-10-11 08:50:29 · update #1
Hey thanks for all your help
I've only just had a thought...I did have a friend who worked with me (she's left now for another job) and she didn't like this girl very much.
Whenever me and my friend were sitting having lunch or just having a good time, this girl would sit with her friend and keep looking over at us as if she was on our case all the time.
Would it possible that this girl is trying to get rid of me because my friend left very suddenly?
2006-10-14 00:10:45 · update #2
She sounds like a very controlling immature child. Since this girl seems to be effecting everyone she comes in contact with you need to do something about it, for your own sake. You said that she is cozy with the boss. That does not pose as much of a problem as you think. I would talk to your human resources manager regarding her attitude towards you and the fact that she is making your other co-workers feel threatened. When you speak with HR don't come off as a complainer, instead, talk as if you are truly concerned about her work performance and how it is effecting your job along with the "threatened" others. Good Luck
2006-10-11 08:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that she's jealous. is she married? has she had bad realtionships.
I do know that it's very hard to watch a friend succeed in life and grow. But if you are REALLY friends with her she should support you even if she doesn't agree with your choice of deciding to get married.
Maybe talk to her aside, and ask her why she's so unhappy about such a wonderfull thing? maybe not as blunt as that, but along those lines. be willing to listen to her side of it, maybe there some sub-concious story or past event that has set her mind to "all things marriage= bad"
good luck
2006-10-11 08:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by strwrs7772000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with my own persinal touches i would tlak to this girl after work maybe at a coffee shop or something and just ask her whats going on but i think shes jealous but i would still just talk to her and get things sorted out cause you used to be best friends and maybe you can be again good luckk
2006-10-11 08:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Melly. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's jealous of you. You remind her of all her mistakes in life. You have to work with her,but do your best to ignore her rude comments. What she wants is attention, don't give it to her.
2006-10-11 08:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋