Why do people hate on single-mothers?

Question

I currently thinking of undergoing artificial insemination. Everybody is like you should wait until you get married to have a baby. I am like why? Most men don't help w/ the kids they just produce a paycheck I can do that myself. Men just seem like large children, I want one child not two. Well I wouldn't mind two or three its just I don't want any "grown children" if you know what I mean. If I have to come home bath care for them cook, clean and help w/ the bill, nurture, protect, raise the children then I feel I mind and well do the whole thing Cook, clean, pay all the bills, and do all the nurturing, protecting and raising of the children. It seems most women want a husband just to say they have a man. If I have a husband he has to be a total 50% partner and I will definately meet him half way. But I don't see any sense in waiting for a man when I can take care of my child on my own.

As for the kid not knowing the father, what about men who conceive and leave. There is no way to tell that a man will/ or won't do that.

Answer 1

I am a single parent, and I can tell you that it is very difficult. I really do wish I had more people to help out, and as it as I depend rather more than I would like on my family (thank goodness they're as much help as they are!). To a certain extent, if you can't take a little criticism from people around you, you may have no business being a parent in the first place (people like to second-guess parents of EVERY kind!).

By the same token, it's not impossible. If you have the will to do it, then by all means go ahead. The world needs all the dedicated and loving parents it can get! Some people will be down on you for your decision, but that is probably true for any decision you make. I think times have been changing of late... single parents are given a lot more respect than they used to be.

So do it if you want to and can, just be aware of how big a piece of pie you're cutting for yourself. It can be wonderful, but it can also be terrible! I wish you the best. Good luck!

Answer 2

I feel you on the single parent thing. Of course it is both preferred and I dare say healthier for all involved if there were two parents. However, not detrimental. I myself at times wish there was a way that I could have a child without the drama that comes with coitus at times, but deep in my heart, I know that a human offspring should concepted out of love between two humans. I have a friend we dated for a moment, I came into her live after she had given birth to a son with the father not going to be in the picture. She felt she had robbed her child of something precious. I have been with the boy for twelve years now, not as a father just a male and that alone makes a difference. So even if there is no father make sure there is a strong male that is not going anywhere for the child. My friend now wants a another child for her career is straight and she missed out on lot with her child when he was growing up. Has hinted to me would I oblige her vs. being in-seminated. Not sure that I would... but even that, a good friend you respect and admire, I think would be a preferrable alternative. At least then the child could go and spend time with his/her father which can make a great difference in everyone's life. Technology is great but some things are best the way nature intended.

Answer 3

I don't think people hate single mothers. What you are thinking about is doing is interesting and bold. Raising children alone is difficult, as I'm sure you're aware. If you can handle it, great. The only problem that may occur is how it may affect a child, especially a male, without any father figure. Sometimes grandpa or an uncle can offer enough of a male presence in a child's life, but often they can't possibly provide enough. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well i know how it feels to not have a dad and it can be very rough on a kid. One it can give your child some serious emotinal damage.And two it can also make a child if a girl seek attention from the oppisite sex in the wrong way because they have never had a male role model in their life and they need to feel that love from a man.A child needs a mother and a father not just one that's like putting on one shoes and walking out the house.

Answer 5

I dont know, but i think its important a child have the opportunity to grow up with a mother and father. I have yet to have children but i know that i will get married before i take even the slightest chance on getting them. Kids need both a mom and dad, no matter how well suited i am to prepare for them.

Answer 6

I don't know if it's them hating on single mothers so much as what society thinks is the perfect family situation.

Studies have proven that children are more successful with both the mother and father present in their lives. That does not mean that a single parent can't be as successful, that just means, that studies lean more in the favor of both parents present.

Both mothers and fathers bring something unique to the table that it takes a very special person to be able to make up for. For Daughters for example they GENERALLY (please realize these are all generalizations NOT the law of nature) have more self respect, and tend to hang on to their purity longer than girls who's fathers are not active in their life. Boys GENERALLY do better with their self esteem as well, have more respect for women, and do better in life.

Also a child learns from observation, how will they ever learn how to be in a positive relationship without both parents present.

Unfortunately we don't live in the society where all this is possible.

If you feel you can do a bang up job as a single parent, I commend your enthusiasm as well as your strength to do it. I know that it's one of the hardest things I've ever done.

Answer 7

I feel that it is very important for a child to have a mother and a father in the home. 70% of the prison population come from homes with only a single parent. That should be a reason why you be needin a man up in there.

Answer 8

You're still waiting for a proposal to happen. It's not easy to raise kids. You're considered lucky , you're still single and free to do anything you want to do in life like- travel Europe, Asia, Africa and the rest of the continents. Have you seen the world yet? Being a mom is not an easy job, enjoy life don't stress it. It is stressful to have kids thats guaranteed..

Answer 9

Well honey........the way I feel about it.....If you want a baby, you do what you want to do in order to get that baby regardless of what people say or think. I am a single mother. I happen to have twins who are 8 years old. It's not my fault that their dad is a dead-beat. I actually get alot of praise for raising these kids by myself. So you do what you wanna do. DON'T worry about what other people think or say. To answer your question about people hating on single mothers, it's because ALOT of these people think the female doesn't know who the father of her child/children is, therefore she has to raise them by herself. You don't have to explain anything to anybody. You do what you gotta do in order to get what you want! I'll stand behind you 100%!

Answer 10

I dont hate on single moms. They got some real cajones when it comes to taking care of kids by themselves.

I actually wouldnt mind dating a single mom. It would give me a chance to learn how to take care of young children. Because someday ill have rugrats of my own, so the more experiance i have the better