ok so heres the deal......My little sister is having her b-day party sometime in December, and i really want to go. BUT my mom does not like my ex-stepmom at all.
its been 2 years sence ive seen my brother and sister and i think this will be a great way for us to get back together!!
i just really dont know wat to do about this situation!!
ive never been put in a possition like this and its killing me inside!!
PLZZZZZZZZ help!!
2006-10-11 08:11:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would have a serious sit-down conversation with mom, step-mom & dad. When there are children involved, the adults need to act like adults, & put their personal feelings aside for the sake of the children. It is not fair that you feel like you can't see your siblings. Tell them that you feel like you're being punished for situations that they have created.
2006-10-11 08:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be caught in he middle like this. You didn't create the situation, you are a victim of the situation. Ideally, you should be able to go to the birthday party, and your mom should understand you are not disrespecting her if you go. You have a brother and sister you haven't seen, and you should see them. I have siblings my stepmother kept me apart from for almost 40 years. We finally got a chance to talk, but now we are all middle-aged and we have missed so much of each other's lives. Don't be the victim, take a stand, and do what you want to do. Hopefully your mother will understand.
2006-10-11 08:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her exactly how you feel and let her understand that this is about you and your brother and sister, not her and the ex. If you let her know how you feel she should understand. She may find another way for you to get back together if the party is too much for her but I am sure telling her your feelings is the way to go. Get the ball rolling.
2006-10-11 08:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by RJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should take you. She needs to Put her feelings aside, Kids ALWAYS come first no matter what. You should talk to your mom an explain how you feel , or maybe she can just drop you off at the party an pick ya up when it's over !
Much Luck !!
2006-10-11 08:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother and sister are important, as is your connection to them. Address your mothers fears...tell her that she comes first, and that you are not going to see the ex-stepmom, but to see your brother and sister. Tell her, that in the future, your brother and sister will be your family, and that while you understand her concerns, she needs to have confidence in what she has taught you and your heart.
2006-10-11 08:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being completely immature about. You should talk to her and explain that it's important to you to have contact with your siblings.
Obviously she still holds a grudge towards you dad and you step-mom but it should be her problem and she should not blame you for wanting to go to the party. You should go regardless of what your mother thinks.
2006-10-11 08:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you need to clarify your question. Why is your EX stepmother going to be there? Are they both not grown up enough to act like adults at a childs birthday party? Would your father be opposed to your ex step mother not coming at all?
2006-10-11 08:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going there for your sister and brother not your ex-stepmom. Let your mom know that.
2006-10-11 08:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by FishyFace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's so unhappy. i could use the traditional etiquette which you may routinely use whilst attempting to grant help to somebody. permit him comprehend which you're keen to sit down down the youngsters if he has to run errands or desires somewhat on my own time. tell him that if he desires to make some significant calls or some thing, you may concepts the youngsters for him or help him make calls. this could carry approximately a communication approximately calling for social centers or counsel. according to probability you and the 11 365 days old can perform a little cooking instructions jointly or your sons can sign in for little league jointly.
2016-10-16 02:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your mom's anger stop you from seeing your siblings!!! She has no right to keep you from them. Her anger issues are hers to deal with, it's not your responsibility. Talk to her about this... because she needs to calm down about the whole situation. You should do what feels right in your heart, go see your sibs!
2006-10-11 08:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋