How can I tell my parents I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 22 and I found out I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend wants me to leave with him and I want to but I just dont know how to tell my parents. I know that they'll have something to say because I've only been with him for 4 months and before him i was a virgin. Can I have some ideas on how to tell them so it wont be hard on them or me.

Answer 1

The best bet is honesty. Sit them down (have your boyfriend with you if possible) and tell them the truth. They might be angry or hurt by your news, but explain that you understand what this means and you and your boyfriend want this child. They will eventually come around when they see you trying to be a responsible parent. Don't stop talking to them if they get angry, keep your lines of communication open, it will be better for everyone in the long run. You are an adult and it is your life, but remember to them, you will always be their little girl, their feelings are worth respect.

Answer 2

First, I'd sit down and figure out exactly how it's going to happen. Know the answer to these questions:

Do you guys have enough money? If not, where are you going to get it? Do you have health insurance? If not, will you be going to clincs or what? What do you mean by "leave with him" and what does that mean for your parents? Have you finished college? If not, will you? Are you going to stay home with the baby? If not, day care? Are you going to marry him (I'm not saying you should, but your parents will probably want to know)? What if things don't work out with this guy? ETC.

THEN, tell your parents that you have something really important to discuss with them and you need their advice & support. Set up a family meeting...where ever you feel most comfortable breaking the news to them. Make sure your boyfriend is there--it'll look better for him.

Start by saying that you have some good, yet difficult news. Tell them that you've really tried to figure out how it will all work. Tell them that you really need their support and advice. Then tell them that you're pregnant. You should tell them it was unplanned, but that you guys have decided to take full responsibility for the baby.

Then, while they're still in shock, go off on the plans you've made to financially, emotionally, etc. support this baby. (And leave out that thing about leaving until the very end...)

If they flare up or get really mad, try to just keep your mouth shut. If they make you really angry or demand an answer--just tell them that you really thought that you and your parents had a good enough relationship to be supportive of you, despite the circumstances. They may need a while to cool off--don't do anything drastic. As soon as they get out of denial, they'll really love your baby--

Good luck!

Answer 3

Before you do anything, take some time to think about what's going on. (see below) Make sure this is what you really want before you go ahead with the decision to tell your parents.

Do you want this baby, not just now, but in 2 years when s/he's screaming because you're trying to dress her/him, or when you need to use your last $20 to buy him/her medicine? And what about the boyfriend, will you get married now? If you don't, what guarantee do you have that this child will have a normal family to depend upon instead of growing up in a single household, which I know happens a lot, but it doesn't make it easier.

I know a lot of people will tell you how to tell your parents, but is this the right thing to do at this point in your life? I'm advising you against it because no one advised me when I was in your position. If you have this child, you're in for a life of hard knocks...not the story-book life and family every girl dreams of. If you want that, do it the right way: finish school, get engaged, have a lovely wedding, go on a honeymoon, save for a home, then start your family, when both you and your husband have finished having crazy fun and are ready for the challenges a family requires.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

My wife and I had been married for 3 years when she told her parents we were pregnant. She didn't want to tell them at all because she thought they'd be upset. I think every women is affraid of their parents finding out they're no longer a virgin (I'm guessing anyhow) Sure, you're parents are going to piss and moan a bit seeing you're not married. But who cares. Come clean with them and tell them right up from "I wanted to tell you because I want you guys to know everything that goes on in my life, if you're mad, I understand and I'll give you time to cool down, but I could use parents right now" I think most parents would find it hard to argue with that. But I would not have your boyfriend there. As a father of a girl i can tell you 100% that I would kick his *** no matter how old my daughter was.

Answer 5

It's going to be hard no matter what, but if you can remember two things, you should come out if ok:

1) your 22 - well into adulthood, aka, it's your life and this is your choice to make. Assuming your boyfriend has a job, tell them this, let them know you'll be supported through the pregnancy and you'll try to see them as often as possible (make effort here) so they can be part of it with you.

2) it's going to take your parents time to adjust no matter what, let them be surprised, angry, confused, worried... it's thier job and when they express concern or worry, know they love you.

Answer 6

You're a grown woman so your parents should respect your wishes. Only you can be sure if you want to leave with your boyfriend (just because you're pregnant you don't have to move with him). You really can't tell how they'll react so I just say sit them down and talk with them and tell them your plans. I hope everything works out well for you with your parents and your baby.

Answer 7

You just have to tell them. I had to do the same thing but I was only 19. The only thing i regret is thinking I had to get married. Don't get married just because of your pregnancy, i would suggest living together and then after the baby comes if it is something you still want to do then go for it. Your parents will come around, especially once that beautiful grandchild is born!

Answer 8

You're 22 and technically an adult. You're about to grow up fast. Tell them, don't leave. A child is a blessing, even if the circumstances don't seem right for now. Time to now focus on this new life and not yourself.

Answer 9

honey ur 22 yrs old if they have a problem with it tell them to shove it they will still love u no matter what u say to them **** im 16 and am most likely preg but ive been with my bf for almost 2 yrs and i was a virgin b4 i met him so were not all that different i thought i was preg last month and i was so scared that my mom would kill me but i knew i couldnt make it with out her so i just slowly brought the subject up and told her and she was dissapionted but she also said she did love me and that we were gonna get through it plus my bf is more than willin to take care of me and his baby

Answer 10

Just tell them. The thing is...you are an adult. You are 22, not 16. Yes, they'll be disappointed because you're not married, but whatever. You should be living your own life not allowing them to do it for you.