we've been together for 4 yrs, he has a mild case of bipolar, it has been hard because one minute he's mean then a minute later he is very sweet. it's hard for me because i've had to come to conclustion no to get mad at him when he is mean becuase it may be just the bipolar, i don't think it is fair though not to get mad because i don't know if it is the bipolar or if he is just being mean. he is good about apologizing though so i do give him credit for that, sometimes he can say things so mean that i wish he would just leave and meet someone else, and maybe i would be happier with someone else, i have broken up with him a couple times but we got back together because we do both love each other. i can be very mean to him to when he is like that but most of the time i try to hold back my anger because i know in a minute he will apologize and be sorry, but it is hard not to fight back when your so mad, have your ever been in a situation like this or know someone in a relationship
2006-10-11 07:57:57 · 11 answers · asked by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My cousin is bipolar. I do not visit her as much as i should, but i know what it is like to be around someone bipolar. If he has health insurance, I stongly recommend him going to a neurologist. Because, to control bipolar he will need to take medication like my cousin does. I wish i knew what the name of the meds my cousin is on for it, but i don't know the name. It has changed her greatly.
My mom visits our cousin once a year. When my cousin first got bipolar she locked my mom out of the house after she called saying she was on the way. My mom lives 300 miles from our cousin so it was not like she could just turn around and go home when she just got there. My cousin told my mom she locked her out cause it took my mom longer than she said to get to her house. Luckily my cousins husband was not out of town since he travels with his job. He was the only person in town that had a key to the house.
You are doing what i do when i visit my cousin. Keep up the good job. You may have been brought into his life to care for him. I know it is hard to care for someone that is rude without meaning to, but the life of someone bipolar is rough, they do have a higher risk of committing suicide than someone that's just got a rough life, so they need someone to care for them. Be strong. Keep up the good work. You are both in my prayers.
J.T.K
2006-10-11 08:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunepup 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both my girlfriend and I have personality disorders and I have been diagnosed with bipolar type 2 which sounds like is the type your boyfriend has.
It can get VERY crazy sometimes, that is for sure. It sounds like you care about him very much because you remain with him no matter what. I think that he needs to be put on medication (a mood stabilizer) and you both should seek couples therapy.
It's a lot of work and a long process but eventually that medication will kick in and I think that you will see a much stabler person. Good luck.
2006-10-11 15:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, myself.
I'm the bipolar in the relationship. My partner is wonderfully understanding and supportive. It's been a heck of rocky journey to being properly diagnosed and then meds were another crazy trip. But through it all she stood by me. She knew I was a truly loving person inside, but sometimes my rage would come out in the most inconvenient of ways.
Never a physically violent person, but I would say some of the meanest things and shock even myself that it came out of my mouth. I'd have terrible swings of depression that would turn to mania and elation for no reason at all.
It's tough dealing with it, but trust me...it's tougher being it.
I hated who I was turning into. I could see myself from the outside and hated who I was. I knew that what I was seeing wasn't who I knew I was inside. I knew I was cruel to the people I loved most because I was comfortable letting it all just go around them. But I still hated it.
But, with therapy and the right diagnosys and controlled meds and diet, I'm the person I always knew I was.
I'm happier, I'm calmer, I like myself and am grateful for the people around me.
2006-10-11 15:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little brother who is also gay is bipolar. He is 29 and has never had a stable relationship or job. We talk every day and it is insane how his moods swing. he is on medication but then looses a job and insurance and goes off the meds and gets - well crazy. I am always worried about him. I have had him come and live with me several times. I have plenty of room and told him to stay as long as he needs but he always stays a short time and then goes back to Oklahoma (where his mom lives). He gets so depressed I am afraid he will hurt himslef.
You have to have a hard time - I feel for you!
2006-10-11 15:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he's switching that rapidly, he may have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is often co-morbid with Bipolar, and shares many symtoms, but is a different animal. Have a look at the DSM definition below and see whether it applies. If so, his Bipolar dx may be wrong, in which case, his meds won't be helping.
2006-10-12 05:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. One minute happy next minute they are at your throat with a knife. Just read up on bipolar try to understand what they are going thru.
2006-10-12 07:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is treatment for bipolarity, so maybe ur friend should check into that. also, he can only apologize so much before the meaning behind his apologies begin to diminish. regardless of medical or psychological conditions, every relationship has nonnegotiables. you just have to sit down and reevaluate yours. good luck!
2006-10-11 15:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by BryceIsSoNyce 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My lady's ex-girlfriend was bipolar. She ended up beating me lady and was verbally abusive. Needless to say there relationship ended... If he is not getting help or taking meds, it will remain the same forever.
2006-10-11 15:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by mylife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe when they are sweet, thats a symptom of bipolar,too
2006-10-11 15:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by st.uncumber 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my ex is bipolar.she was manipulative at times uncaring,and otherwise deceitful for no apparently good reason. stand your ground or be run over.
2006-10-11 15:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by game_099 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋