Well a while back my husband asked me if i would ever had a three some and i told him i would think about it. But the other day I asked my friend who had done it before and I decided i would do it. But when i told him he could pick the girl he picked my best friend And previosly in our relatonship He told me he thought she was hot. It really makes me think he wants her and not me she is only 15 he is 22. it hurts me to think about it even though i told him i would go through with it. i just cant get the thought of him ******* another women it would be like he was cheating on me right in front of my face. How would i handle that i just want this to all go away. But i cant just let it go. HELP ME PLEASE.
I need to be able to look at my husband and feel he loves me.But instead my feelings are changeing about him. I dont know if i want to be with him any more..But i know deep down inside that i love him very much..
2006-10-11 07:53:31 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
15? this is illegal and rape in all 50 states whether she wants to or not
2006-10-11 07:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did I read this question correctly?
Did you say that your friend is only 15 and that your husband is 22???
How old are you?
I am concerned about the level of immaturity that is represented in this relationship. First, from you that you would consider this at such a young age (and obviously young marriage) and Second, at your Husband for even suggesting this.
Frankly, if you girls are 15 and are having three-somes, there needs to be some strong ADULTS in your lives to guide you in different directions.
What would make you think that this is even kind-of okay??? I am pretty sure that this is illegal by the way.
Please speak to a professional counselor about this or seek some other sort of professional help, possibly from your own parents. This is not a good idea.
2006-10-11 07:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another woman??????? This GIRL is 15!!!!!!!! How old are you? What the hell. This is illegal first of all then nasty. Do not let this happen because it is totally wrong. Also why degrade yourself just to please someone that has no respect for the life of an innocent CHILD or your marriage? Love my A**. Love yourself and your little friend and get away from him and stay away from him!!! If he was really a good husband he wouldn't want to share your bed with anyone else ever especially a child. You need to keep changing your feelings and while you're at it...change the locks to the house.
2006-10-11 08:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are if she's already agreed to having a threesome, they've porobably slept together. :/
I don't care what the 'legal' age is, but I think anyone under 16 is rape.
And speaking from my own stupidity....if you are uncomfortable with the idea of a threesome, don't do it. You will feel ten times worse afterwards and who's to say they won't fool around afterwards (behind your back).
If your husband truly loved you, he would take your feelings into consideration before going ahead with this. It's obvious he's being a selfish pig in trying fullfill the two girl fantasy.
At the same time, how can she be your bestfriend with her willingness to participate in something I'm sure she knows you're not 100% with?
2006-10-11 09:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no. If you don't want a threesome, then I guess y'all will never experience one- right? You don't have to go through with it, or put up with it. He should have had a threesome before he got married if its like that. My boyfriend wants me to have one, but after I told him I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing him with another girl, he saw my point of view, though if I ever changed my mind, I'm sure it would happen the next day. If he respects your feelings and your marriage, then he'll back the hell off!
2006-10-11 08:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 15? and already had a 3some??that's crazy. first of all he can't have sex with her unless he wants to go to jail. let's assume for a minute that she is old enough to do something like this, if it makes you uncomfortable at all then you shouldn't do it. period. it will only hurt the relationship and if your best friend is willing to do it even though she knows your uncomfortable then she is a ***** and you shouldn't be friends with her. your husband should never pressure you into doing things your uncomfortable with. you need to get rid of him too because he doesn't Love you if he tells you that your friends are hot in the first place.
2006-10-11 08:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep something like this from your husband. The key to a healthy relationship is openness and communication. Tell him how you're feeling about the situation, that you're having second thoughts about it, and that you would feel really insecure to have to watch him get intimate with another girl. If he loves you and respects you, he'll let it go. If he doesn't, then dump him fast... because honestly, the guy sounds like a creep to me.
2006-10-11 08:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you married a sexual pig. He is only in consideration of his own sexual desires. This will definitely hurt you and your friends relationship and of course your stupid husband. If you don't do it he will seek it in other ways behind your back...I would say see ya..I am off to have sex with a hot young 21 year old! Tell him that and see how he likes it! Or, do the 3some and then say now I want a hunky guy with big muscles who looks like a male model in bed with us...see how he likes it! Sorry I don't like your husband at all!!!!!
2006-10-11 08:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to do anything you dont want to and what kind of husband would make you do somthing like that? Also, she is 15!! Way too young for a 22 year old man to be with.
2006-10-11 08:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you with a 15 year old friend? Second, a 22 year old man does not need to be a 15 year old girl. Third, if you let him **** her don't think that he won't do it again, without you.
2006-10-11 08:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by ameerahteal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would consent to underaged sex, in your house, with your husband? Eww... the chances of a rape charge coming from it and your first 3-some being exposed to the entire world are pretty high, even if she's not a virgin, even if she's done it before... she can always turn around and cry rape - that's a chance I would NEVER take in a million years.
2006-10-11 07:57:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋