I told my ex that he can work off the money he owes me, but his ex doesn't want him over. What should I do?

Question

We were together for 4 years, lived together for 2 of those years, and broke up a month and a half ago. He owes me about $300 and I have proof of it. He doesn't have the money & begged me not to take him to small claims court. He asked if we can work something out. I told him he can start working off some of the money by coming over and cleaning my home (I hate cleaning). And he can keep coming over to clean until he works it off. I thought it was a very generous offer on my part. He was all for it, until he mentioned it to his new girlfriend. She told him that the only way he can come over is if she goes with him. But, I don't want that woman in my home. She played a big role in ruining our relationship and I have no reason to be nice to her. Should I (1) make him come over anyways without his girlfriend, (2) allow the girlfriend to come with him, (3) give him a new deadline to pay me back the money, or (4) just take his butt to court?

I worded my question wrong. I meant that his current girlfriend doesn't want him over. I'm his ex.

Answer 1

Give him the option. He can either come alone to clean or he has so much time to pay up. He will decide.

Answer 2

tell him that if she comes to your house he can forget about the deal you too did. She shouldn't interfere even if she's teh new one. Sounds like she's the one that broke you guys off- if she or she doesn't like it then give hij a deadline. Remember- you lent to money to himm and now that it's been a while and he hasn't paid you- you ahve all the rights in the world do demand your money whenever and however. Don't push it yet by taking him to small claims court. Give him 1 month to pay you back. Tell him to pay you $100/week. Besides that money he owes you could come handy for rent, food or gas. It's over between the two of you so you do't have to be nice to him if you don't want to . Demand your money. My BF been dating for almost 4 years and owes me like $1,000 and hasn't paid me. If we were to break up i'd run after him until he pays me. The only thing is that the money thing can created a big issue between the two of you. He's a man and should pay you back!!! keep bugging him until he does. If 2 months pass and he STILL doesn't pay- take him to small claims because that money he owes you he can and will use to take his new girlfriend out. think about it but the point is-- you need to get this problem resolved!!

Answer 3

I'd say a combo #3 and #4.

Tell him the option to clean the house is their until (date); however, on that date you will be filing in small claims if he doesn't take it.

#1: Don't "make" him come over. That will rile his girlfriend up for sure and you shouldn't have to put up with that. Let HIM be the heavy on this - not you.

#2: Your house is your "home"....your sacred place. If you don't want someone there...don't let it happen.

Answer 4

If she stepped in to ruin a relationship, then I'd suggest you telling her then IF she doesn't want him coming over, SHE can pay off his debt then!

Then, who cares if he begged you, take him to small claims court. You do know that even in small claims court, they may decide you win, but there is really no way to make them pay even if the decision falls in your favor.

IF you decide he is to only come over, and you want him back.......play the same games she was!!

Answer 5

I think your ex played a bigger role in ruining your relationship than the woman did. You tell him either he can work off the money as arranged, pay it now or you will see him in court. And in the future dont play house.

Answer 6

Give him and her these options.

1 he comes and cleans the house/apartment and she gets over her insecurites

2 either he or she pays you the 300 or half now and the other later.

3 you tell them were going to judge judy.

Answer 7

I would try option 3 and let him know that it's the final deal, if he doesn't pay it in full by that date...then to small claims you go.

Answer 8

you're power tripping, it's only 300$ dollars. it sounds like you're pissed at her so you just want him over to make her angry. the 300$ is not the real issue it's just what you have hanging over his head. look at it this way he's her problem now you're lucky it only cost you 300$ to get rid of him.

Answer 9

Take his butt ot court...you paid him IN CASH so thats how he should REPAY you...and if his gf is so much of a gf she should be there to help him pay off his debt...TAKE HIS *** TO COURT!!!

Answer 10

if shes that jealous make her pay anyway if he cant come up 300$ , youre better off without his looser as s .