What should i do?

Question

My boyfriend an i been 2gther for 1yr and 9 mths. Are sex life is great but there is one problem. It takes him alot to get hard. I mean he gets there eventually,but not in the heat of the moment. I have to play wit it first to even get a reaction out of it..lol. He claims he finds me attractive and wants me bad but when it comes down to it he just cant get there. Now he has the tendency to get aroused when there is a chance for us getting caught, but when we're alone there is nothing. I dont want to leave him. I talk to him about the situation and he tells me that he loves me so much knowing he can have me like this makes him nervous. Im his first so thats pretty understanding, but we been 2gether 2 long for him to still be nervous. Sould i believe him or not? What should i do about the situation?

Answer 1

You've taken the first step and thats communicating. I'm not a doctor so I can't give you a clinical analysis of the issue, but perhaps your BF isn't confident in his sexuality. If you are his "first", he may not be fully aware of his own sexuality right now. This won't happen over night and if you are willing to stick it out with him, he will definately become more confident. If it's a psychological issue with him, he may consider seeking professional support from a sex counsellor, one which his doctor can refer him to. Him saying he is still nervous, could be his way of covering the truth as not to disappoint you because of inadequacies. Have patience and continue to talk with him...offer him suggestions, but only he can make it better. Good luck.

Answer 2

is he a good lover? if he feels he isn't than he will "think" too much instead of just going with it. foreplay is the key to horniness and you just got to get that boy so riled up he will tear you apart. try faking it if you have to just to build up his confidence. in time he will be good or maybe try positions where you both can feel it the best. last resort use viagra, that will make a man out of him.