what can we do to be together we dont know wat to do please if u have any information please let me know thank you
2006-10-11 07:38:10 · 29 answers · asked by rigoberto d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Go to the courthouse, get a license and get married!
2006-10-11 07:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Find a shelter for the young lady to stay in. Her and her child are most important at this time. And let her be. In other words, do NOT break the house rules or you both will be back where you started from.
You let the lady get the help she deserves and get into parenting classes as offered. You, my dear friend, will have to let her alone. It won't hurt the two of you to not see each other for a while. If you are still willing at this point, I can see a better future for you than most.
Son, this is obviously not a planned pregnancy. I admire your determination. Most young guys would have run in the other direction by now. You really must to go back to school or you must find a job.
I know she is getting the care she will need at the shelter.
And what about you? You are not old enough to go thru this by yourself. I believe I would humble myself and ask a pastor, priest, elder at a church where you can get help for yourself. Your lady will be safe. So take care of you. And be responsible enough to recognise the facts now. There will be plenty of opportunities for you to be 'macho' later.
I will pray for you.
Good luck
2006-10-11 08:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, you have access to a computer, so I'm going to assume you either have a place to stay for the moment, or you are using the library computer. Some are telling you to go to the courthouse and get married. However, unless you live in a place where marriage certificates are free, I'm going to assume you don't have the money to do that, or you would have the means to get a place to stay. If your girlfriend is in fact homeless and pregnant, most states or municipalities have programs that will get pregnant mothers off the streets and into housing. She might have to go on a waiting list, but usually, these people are bumped towards the top of those lists. Also, if you go to a shelter, she can "register" and you can "register". You don't have to register together and let the shelter know that you are not married. You might have to stay in seperate rooms at night, but this is for the safety of your girlfriend as well as the other women at the shelter. I don't know of any city that doesn't have some sort of shelter in place for unwed mothers. This type of shelter will not let you stay with her, but in this situation you have to be man enough to help her find a place to be protected, be able to rest easily, and get the food she needs for your child to grow within her. It is a hard lesson to learn, but sometimes we need to think of the outcome before we have unprotected sex. In your case, the outcome means that you are going to have to make decisions you might not want to do, you may have to be seperate from her for a little while, and you are going to have to come up with a plan to help take care of your child on a day to day basis. Raising a child in a shelter is not the answer. Get a job. Become a productive member of society, and quit looking to the people who have made better choices and how have jobs and ways to take care of themselves as an answer in how to take care of you. Getting up every day and going to work and taking care of my family is my job and I do it every day with love in my heart and a smile on my face........however, I refuse to take care of you.
2006-10-11 07:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married just because she's pregnant. She can get into a woman's shelter or low income housing for being a single mother. Check with the local housing authorities or with her case worker (I am assuming she will be on state aid for medical insurance). You maybe should find a friend or something to crash with for a while. Don't lie to the system and move in when you shouldn't if they found out they can kick you all out and that girl and baby need a safe, clean, and warm place to live first and foremost. Plus, get your butt to some jobs! You can work and save up money to get a place as a family. You need to step up now and be a real man.
2006-10-11 07:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The Salvation Army takes anyone as long as you haven't already lived there in the last 6 months they also get you a job or at least force you to look Temp agencies send vans to pick up people to go to work..... if that doesn't work call the adult crisis hot line it is toll free
2006-10-11 07:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you need to make sure that your GF and the baby are safe. Get her into a safe place, then worry about yourself. I know you want to be together, but you will have suffer a little for her safety and the baby's safety. Good luck.
2006-10-11 08:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, you shouldn't have a child with no money and no place to stay. To help with some food and medical help if you need any call WIC-a program in every state that helps woman and children 1-800-994-4769
2006-10-11 07:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sakora 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have no place to say, how are you getting onto a computer? This sounds like a hoax. If it's not, here's the best way to fix your life...ready?
GET A JOB AND STOP LIVING OFF OF EVERYONE ELSE. If you can't afford a place to live, why did you get her pregnant? Pregnancy is 100% preventable if you just simply don't have sex. If you aren't responsible enough to put a roof over your own head, you are not responsible enough to have sex. STOP IT!
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2006-10-11 07:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to go to a woman's shelter they have to help pregnant woman. I'm sure their is some kind of aid you can apply for and then you can find a place to live. Good Luck
2006-10-11 07:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try a catholic outreach program or consider giving the child up for adoption. Plenty of people in your situation have done that. There is no shame in it. You would be doing what any other parent would be doing and that is giving your child the best that you could possibly can. Even if it is not with you.
2006-10-11 07:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I swear people should have to get a license to have children! How can the two of you be so irresponsible??? It's bad enough for you two, but you would allow a child to be brought into this? It's disgusting!! I believe in forced sterilization and the two of you should be first in line!!!
2006-10-11 07:43:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋