how can we eliminate shy, fear, anxiety, phobia?

Answer 1

Rational Thinking.

Answer 2

If haven't felt al of the above at one time or other in my life, except for phobia... Shy I get when I can sense there's is an underlying matter in the room with all the people at the party, stopping to talk and looking at me entering through the door Some of them Will always look as if I am property, enemy, or don't look they know me and know I don't like to be stared at... Standing in front of crowds, giving a speech. sheer nightmare so also anxiety attacks. Fear ??? I'm not afraid any more. The Guy who sang that committerd suicide somewhere in spring of 1980. His phobia caught up with him so to speak.. Unless you train yourself to feel good about yourself in a wider context, than your Nation's idea of your context.. You'll not live much fun... My fun???? Taking any old conman to any old cleaner...... To make him Clean our Planet up... What would a rich man say, when he has too much money, when the balance has to be tipped the right way.... Pretty anxious, he mumbles I'm sorry mum I didn't know money wasn't for eating.... Western Europe still good farmland????? Oops who let the cat out of the bag???? Me???? I wouldn't

Answer 3

In ourselves...
Shyness can be ridden of by simply accepting that not everyone will like you, and so, you can't change that. accept that your friends are the ones that matter.
Fear can be driven out by facing them head-on, or even by association. you alone can stand up to fear.
Anxiety can be gotten rid of by preparation and relaxation, relaxation being key. put it out of your mind for a while.
Phobias can rarely be dealt with, but for the best possible outcome, see the Fear category.

Answer 4

Mind control. No seriously- those emotions are all in your head, and are generally "fake" sensations brought about by "fake" fear. Once you learn to control your thoughts by subconscious re-programming, you're fears never come back. It's actually a very very simple concept, and scientifically proven. It just takes longer to master (like learning a new language) than drugs. And most people are taught to believe they have an "illness" so they're skeptical or even afraid to believe they can change-- in fact, they are the only ones who can eliminate their own fears.

Answer 5

To overcome shyness, is possible, to overcome anxiety is possible, and to overcome phobias is also possible....but fear, we can never overcome fear, it will always be there, that's why so many of us feel the fear, and do it anyway...it's about the way we handle fear, by not letting it run, or ruin our lives, but it can never be eliminated.

Answer 6

don't I wish there was a magic formula. My son has been homebound for 5 months because of anxiety attacks. The others are right you have to conquer fear, that is a tall order for some.

Answer 7

take small risks or steps of trying to open up. As for comments on youtube nobody has to know it is you if you use a diff name or account. Write down some things you would like to say to your aunt and have it ready when you go to call her. You will be just fine. It can feel uncomfortable at first but after awhile you will be doing things you didnt think that you could do and you can be proud of yourself. I mean after all you did post question.

Answer 8

Here's the answer. Quit making it all about you, and give to others what you want from them. It always comes back your way, plus it feels good to do.

Quit being so self-absorbed and making everything all about you. Start to focus your attention and energy outward. Give to others what you want from them. Give others compliments, attention, admiration, respect, generosity, consideration, compassion, empathy, appreciation, positive regard.

You would be surprised at how giving to others can be so fulfilling to you. If you want something from someone, give it away, tothem. If you want to be understood, you must first seek to understand.

Remember that you can't "make" anyone feel anything. You can, however, inspire feelings in someone. No one can "make" you feel anything, either. You choose how to feel based on your perception of their intent. And remember that perception does not equal intent. Sometimes things come out wrong or sound harsh. Give others the benefit of the doubt before reacting emotionally. Learn to say "What do you mean by that?".

Notice other people and how they try to be noticed. Look for their good qualities and make a positive observation. Follow that up with a question or two, to get them talking about themselves. You will make someone's day, and it will feel really good inside.

Phobias are anxiety-related. Similar to OCD. You might need to see a psychologist for that. You don't really have to control everything in your life. In fact, the only thing you can control is your behavior, and how you choose to react to situations. Your world doesn't fall apart if you can't control the weather, right? Trust yourself to handle things that happen spontaneously.

The world does not revolve around you. You are merely a spec in the world. Don't worry too much about what others think of you because chances are, THEY DON'T. Not unless you give them a reason to. They are thinking about themselves and their own adversity. They are hoping they will be noticed, acknowledged, and appreciated. They dress to impress others, they have nice cars, jewelry, hang out at cool places, do cool things, etc. Give others a good reason to think good things about you. Notice and appreciate them and their effort. It feels good to make someone's day. Compliments on style, creativity, skill/ability, and thoughtfulness, are all great ice breakers and begin the rapport building.

Don't hide behind your anxiety and fear. You'll come off as stuck up or aloof, as if you think you're too good to share your personality with people. Being an extrovert means that you share your personality by making it all about other people. It's called "breaking the ice, and building rapport". You can learn more about this from books for salespeople by Dale Carnegie. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a good one.

Don't let anyone tell you that there's something wrong with you. We all have your same feelings. Just some of us have different and better or worse coping skills. Don't let anyone tell you that you need medication or therapy. You just need a new perspective.

Answer 9

the feelings of being shy,having fear,anxiety and phobias are part of human nature. without them we would not have the level of self awareness thats makes unique.

Answer 10

we can't eliminate these feelings and phobias but we could eventually overcome them with a little help and guidance from certain people such as family members and friends. the ways are numerous, you just need to find the right one to solve them.